Is it weird to feel sad about Valentine’s Day with your SO? I’m trying so hard to be grateful or thankful, but I feel…
Is it weird to feel sad about Valentine’s Day with your SO? I’m trying so hard to be grateful or thankful, but I feel like the effort he puts is not much compared to me. Every valentines or birthday I write in his card, illustrate (since I draw), do something nice or thoughtful. I put some time into it. And every valentines, anniversary, it’s the same bunch of roses from Walmart with the same vase, same words in the cards he writes me, and he’ll tack on some cheap chocolate or something else not so thoughtful. And he can tell I’m not as surprised or happy with it. And I feel terrible. I feel like I should be grateful bc I’m sure there’s guys out there who are terrible. But also, we’ve been together for 11 years, married for 6. It’s the same thing every year.. and I have the same feelings bc I feel like I change it up, I try. But he doesn’t. I’ve talked to him about it in the past and it only made him upset. I don’t know how to get him to understand that giving me the same card, same writing, same cheap roses, don’t really do it for me. And also I don’t know why I don’t feel appreciative of him. I put in even more effort this year and again I’m left disappointed. Not sure what to do or feel.
K·
Мама дочки-младенца
I fell the same i been with my husband 9 years married 3 he doesnt do any type of gift giving or hes not very affectionate. And then i hate when i tell him and then he does it cus then i feel hes only doing it bcus i was upset. Its like dude i want u to want to do it lmao
Rae··
Мама сына (3 года)
I know exactly what you mean 😔
K··
Мама дочки-младенца
i think u should talk to him be like i want something great this year i feel like i deserve it i did that with my hupsband this year and for our anniversary he went out and got a bottle of wine 2 wine glasses tacos roses and flowers with balloons a huge stuffed sloth with a baby and even a card lol i was in shock usually he wont get me anything.
dawn·
Have you suggest something. Like “hey baby for valentines can we get my nails done instead of flower? They last longer”
Rae··
Мама сына (3 года)
@leedleleedlelee, but he loves the stuff I give him. Even the illustrated cards..
dawn··
you’re allowed. I’m super petty. I make home made gift for my husband and when he got back from training he didn’t even really look at he one I made him from me and the kids. So I stopped. When he graduated with his degree I bought him this real nice expensive watch. He told me to take it back. I didn’t buy him anything else for 7 years!! Lol maybe you should meet him on his level?
Rae··
Мама сына (3 года)
@dawnrose, our anniversary I didn’t give him anything. My dad was very ill and ended up dying a couple weeks after our anniversary, but 2 days before our anniversary we got into a big fight too, so I wasn’t expecting to celebrate, he got me roses and took me for dinner. I was surprised. But he did mention it a couple times I didn’t do anything. He once freaked out on Father’s Day when I gave him his gift later in the day bc I was grocery shopping, and he threw a tantrum and locked himself up in his room. This was after he didn’t give me anything for my first Mother’s Day.. I made an effort bc valentines and his bday are on the same week so I wanted to make up for our anniversary.. but same generic sentences in his card. I actually just told him, and we’re now upset at each other. I told him, I appreciate everything but it would be nice to have something more in the card, something more sentimental bc I feel so unloved, he’s not expressive in general and at least try in the card or something? He made me feel like a terrible person, and I do feel it. He says lots of guys don’t do this.. I dunno.