Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
Trigger. Lost baby Went in for my 20 week check up and found out our son had passed away. Nothing was wrong, my pregnancy has been going great. I'm so numb right now. I'll he delivering him later this week. I don't want to do this. I don't want to do this. Not before Christmas. How am I'm going to tell my kids?? My dear sweet baby boy. Why did this happen?
Mamas I really need some advice or just a listening ear, I really don't know what to do, or if I'm overreacting, but my baby's father and I are together, when we met and I got pregnant he was here working, he went back to work out of town after I found out I was pregnant and only comes back once a month, he supports me financially, which was mostly his choice bc he makes good money, we are doing fine on money.. but I'm almost 31 weeks and as I get closer I'm really worried about raising my daughter on my own, he plans to continue to come back only once a month even when she is born and it really scares me, even though I know we will need the money since I won't be working, I still feel like I'm going to be alone raising our daughter, when we talk about it all he has to say is he doesn't see any other way, but he's never lived here, let alone had a job here, and I know of so many places where he could get a job easily when he's here for one of his monthly visits and he just keeps saying that he can't quit his job and move here without having a stable job, and I keep telling him he can,find a job before he quits this one, but yet he's not even trying to find a job when he's here, he hasnt researched job openings or called anywhere, sometimes I feel like he's just comfortable with what is happening and it really hurts me to think about my daughter not having him here, and raising her alone, for one he's never been around a baby, doesnt have a clue how to raise one, and has never even HELD a baby, so I feel like if he only comes back once a month then he's never going to learn how to help with her, let alone know her, and her recognize him when he is here... every time we talk about it, it just turns into an argument and I'm to the point where I feel like I'm wasting my breathe... I just really don't know what to do, I'm scared, and need help and I feel like he doesn't wanna risk anything by moving here when I really need him. am I overreacting??? btw don't get me wrong, I'm beyond grateful for him, with everything he does, and all the financial support he provides, but I've never been "taken care of" (for lack of better words) and I would rather work too, just to have him here to help me and be with his daughter and sometimes I feel like that's not an option to him... it's really depressing me and scaring me. don't be afraid to tell me if I sound like a spoiled bitch or something, I honestly need yalls HONEST OPINION. 😞
Totally irrational so please no judgement... baby daddy is over for visitation and he took Karoline's picture and it infuriated me. I don't want him having pictures of my daughter. He just posts them on social media and claims how we keep him from Karoline and what a great dad he is even though he doesn't do shit. How do I get over this mamas? I'm really struggling with it lately. I just don't want him to have any part, seeing him with my daughter disgusts me .
my s.o thinks I'm crazy because I already want to plan my daughters 1st birthday that will be in 7 months 😂 lmao call me crazy I don't care I'm still doing it 😍
Jana ·
For one that's a pretty low down and asshole thing to say to someone at home raising your kids. I think I'd strangle my husband for saying that and would be getting a job also. If you feel you need to work I would do so, but I would also talk to him about saying things like that. Your his wife, not his child.
Athenia··
Мама дочки (1 год)
Honestly I dont think he understands just how much work it actually is being a stay at home mom. When my daughter was 6m I started work again but we moved away a few months later. So since march 2018 he hasn't had to fully watch her alone, all day long. I've been threatening to get a job for a while.. Ive kinda been blowing it off because I wanna stay home with Penny. But I'm getting pretty tired of him putting me down like that.
Jana ··
it is a lot of work, I LOVE staying at home but sometimes I get jealous that he gets to leave or of other people with careers. But I wouldn't let my husband talk down to me. He has always been the money maker and we both spend the money freely as we please but talk to each other for big purchases. Even though he makes the money he listens when I ask him not to buy something. I feel that's how it should be. One day I will make more money than him when I finish school and it will be the same way. It's OUR money.
LEO Wifey·
Honestly? Counseling. He's acting like he owns you, since he's the breadwinner, and therefore your point of view is invalid.
I'd be surprised if he was on board with you getting a job. Clearly he enjoys using it as a control mechanism.
Athenia··
Мама дочки (1 год)
I dont think he realizes it, but he is acting like that. The argument was literally because he wanted to drive from Illinois to Texas for a 1200 dollar car that he can literally find so much closer. The second I say something he doesn't like he gets angry. I can admit I'm a bit pessimistic about nearly everything. But as soon as I point something out that he doesn't like he gets nasty toward me.
sherry S·
It feels good to be independent girl! And ps I make more money than my man I have a career.He is with our son from 7am-4pm I am at work and he works 530- 12 ,1 am..That is horrible he said that to you ..! People treat us how we allow. Don't allow it
Athenia··
Мама дочки (1 год)
I shut down every single time. I try to get him to stop by showing him I'm not talking to him if he screams at me but it never works.
sherry S··
#1 screaming....really a grown man can't communicate. This is soo wrong..he sounds controlling in so many ways...we all go thru lessons in life..i learned my lesson early divorced my 1st husband at age 21..wasn't Going to live that way!
Melissa ·
Мама двоих (младенец)
There is nothing like your own money. Especially if your man is the type to hold money and what he does for you over your head.