Every time hubby and I argue he likes to point out that he pays for everything gets me everything I want and that he can stop buying me stuff. So I told him I'm gonna try to find a job. Well he works 2pm to 11pm. I don't want anybody really babysitting our daughter on a regular basis. So I've applied for some early morning jobs, and over night jobs. I don't want to be away from penny but one, I'm ready to be independent, and two, we could use the money, but with me being pregnant, ill have to leave in a few short months for at least 2 months after baby is born. I'm torn between finally not depending on hubby 100% and staying home with my daughter. Anybody have any advice?
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It feels good to be independent girl! And ps I make more money than my man I have a career.He is with our son from 7am-4pm I am at work and he works 530- 12 ,1 am..That is horrible he said that to you ..! People treat us how we allow. Don't allow it
I shut down every single time. I try to get him to stop by showing him I'm not talking to him if he screams at me but it never works.
@familyof3.andcounting #1 screaming....really a grown man can't communicate. This is soo wrong..he sounds controlling in so many ways...we all go thru lessons in life..i learned my lesson early divorced my 1st husband at age 21..wasn't Going to live that way!
Honestly? Counseling. He's acting like he owns you, since he's the breadwinner, and therefore your point of view is invalid.
I'd be surprised if he was on board with you getting a job. Clearly he enjoys using it as a control mechanism.
I dont think he realizes it, but he is acting like that. The argument was literally because he wanted to drive from Illinois to Texas for a 1200 dollar car that he can literally find so much closer. The second I say something he doesn't like he gets angry. I can admit I'm a bit pessimistic about nearly everything. But as soon as I point something out that he doesn't like he gets nasty toward me.
For one that's a pretty low down and asshole thing to say to someone at home raising your kids. I think I'd strangle my husband for saying that and would be getting a job also. If you feel you need to work I would do so, but I would also talk to him about saying things like that. Your his wife, not his child.
Honestly I dont think he understands just how much work it actually is being a stay at home mom. When my daughter was 6m I started work again but we moved away a few months later. So since march 2018 he hasn't had to fully watch her alone, all day long. I've been threatening to get a job for a while.. Ive kinda been blowing it off because I wanna stay home with Penny. But I'm getting pretty tired of him putting me down like that.
@familyof3.andcounting it is a lot of work, I LOVE staying at home but sometimes I get jealous that he gets to leave or of other people with careers. But I wouldn't let my husband talk down to me. He has always been the money maker and we both spend the money freely as we please but talk to each other for big purchases. Even though he makes the money he listens when I ask him not to buy something. I feel that's how it should be. One day I will make more money than him when I finish school and it will be the same way. It's OUR money.
There is nothing like your own money. Especially if your man is the type to hold money and what he does for you over your head.