Okay. So i just have a question for all you moms out there. ive called several places and I have…
Okay. So i just have a question for all you moms out there. ive called several places and I have gotten no answers. my child's father wants to change my daughters last name to his last name. I am now married and my daughter has my maiden name. if i let him chnage her last name to his will that give him more rights or leverage? i just dont wanna go through with it and then end up regreting it if he gets power over me. he pays child support but there is no visitation established. he only sees her on the weekends. ? #myfirstpost
Brianna Montgomery ·
No that doesn’t give him any leverage . You’re both still equal until a court determines otherwise
Lanie Jay·
Why would you let him change her name?
Brianna Montgomery ··
not saying there’s necessarily an issue but if her dads actively in her life I dont see why she can’t / shouldn’t have it . She’ll be able to share a name with one of her parents lol
Lanie Jay··
it doesn't seem like mom is on board, so why is it necessary? She shouldn't feel obligated to do so.
Brianna Montgomery ··
I never said she was , the original post seemed like she wanted to as long as she still had the upper hand . Lol , which she would
Shelly·
Мама двоих (младенец)
Yeah. the reason im asking too is because he wants to claim her on taxes he makes more than me I take care of her and he only gets her on the weekends I called child support they said it wasn't in my file about him claiming her. So technically I should claim her but hes trying to get me to sign a paper so he can claim her. then he said he wouldn't worry about taxes if I changed her name to his bc its something special to him so like I said im just confused on what to do.
Brianna Montgomery ··
They still need proof of her birth certificate ss # etc . If he only gets her on weekends just don’t let him claim her . That has nothing to do with the last name situation though
Brooke H·
If he isn't on the birth certificate then you would or he would need to get a lawyer so he can do the dna test then it would go to court to set up child support and visitation.
Shelly··
Мама двоих (младенец)
He is on the birth cirtificiate because he does pay child support but no visitation is in place we just decide on our own and communicate that.
Brooke H··
okay got you. No I wouldn't change her name unless your ready too or see wants too. And if you are the primary parent then by law he can't. The child has to live with him for 6 months or you both agree on it
Cass·
Hi, Shelly, welcome! 👋🏽 honestly I have no idea how to respond to your question but hope you're able to figure it out or someone's able to help you out 'cause I know how you feel though, my son took his dad's last name when I wanted him to have mine which is totally fine like I get it, if it's his, he should have his last name but personally was gonna change it if him and I got married even though there's a charge and it's a hassle to change it again.
Shelly··
Мама двоих (младенец)
Yeah well the reason I gave her my last name was because he wasnt there at first. And now he wants to change it. && it just worries me because I dont want him to have more power over me
Cass··
Right? Totally get it. I personally wouldn't do it until you're officially ready to do it. Don't think he would but he might just take full advantage of it though.
leslie·
Мама сына (2 года)
Do what makes you feel comfortable, if you dont want to change it then don't. It seema hes just trying to threaten you with claiming her. If her having his last name is so special and important to him, he wouldnt be all, I wont claim her if you do this.
And claim her yourself, regardless if he makes more. You have her the majority of the time, you could use that money. He doesnt need it.
And if he does file for her as well, then more than likely they will side with you and give it to you.
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Мама дочки (1 год), беременна (32 нед.)
I would tell him, to just wait until your daughter is old enough to decide for herself if she wants his last name or keep yours. As far as claiming her as a dependent i wouldnt let him. She is under your care for most of the time.
J·
I may be reading your posts wrong here but it looks like he wants to claim her on his taxes when you gave placement and pat for almost everything for her. Ummm no. And I agree it shohld be her choice when she's older. It sounds like he is trying to manipulate you and take money from you by claiming her on his taxes when you should be.
Elena Salvatore·
Don’t let him push you around. I agree with waiting until she’s older, and she can decide. From what you’ve said he has no right to claim her on his taxes, unless you give him permission. Since you have her more, I personally wouldn’t allow it.
Patrycja Lai·
Keep in mind that you can change your name only limited amount of times on your social security card. This would be change number 1, out of 10 max per lifetime. If she wants to go back to your name or be legally adopted by your husband or whatever happens - those are other changes.
I simply wouldn’t do it. If she wants to call her by his last name - sure let me. Legally I wouldn’t do it.