When my oldest 2 boys were young, I had to have that talk with them and ask them if anyone had ever done anything inappropriate with/to them. A "friend" of my sister and I was arrested and is serving life for sexually assaulting a minor. My boys spent A LOT of time with this person, because they loved being around his wifes kids, and he was always asking for my boys to come over for "boys nights" My kids didn't have a father figure in their lives until I met my husband, and I never suspected anything was up with him...my kids loved hanging out with this person. When I found out he had been arrested, I was physically ill for a long time. That was the hardest conversation I ever had to have, asking my boys about it, Because they were so young and I know they didn't really understand what I was asking. Thankfully, neither of my boys said anything ever happened to them.
Oh my! I am so glad they weren’t abused. I was abused by my step brother for years. I never said anything because my mom had cancer and was dying. As a kid I just didn’t want anymore drama in my life so I kept quiet. My grandma suspected it and drilled me about it one day and I just denied it. Wish I would’ve spoken up back then because it scarred me for life. When my daughter is at an appropriate age, I’m going to have a conversation with her about it and explain what happened to me, sparing her the details, to let her know if anyone does anything like that to her she can tell me and trust that I will believe her and handle the situation.
As an adult I’ve shared what happened to me with other adults in my family and was shocked to find out it had happened to some of them too when they were kids.
oh man I'm so sorry you went through that! I also had something happen to me, I was raped when I was 16, still a virgin, and ended up pregnant. I never told anyone for years about the assault, and even after I told anyone, I didn't reveal that he was my childs father. I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 18 weeks, and it was at that point that I even 100% realized it had actually happened. When it happened, I had been drinking, my mom had kicked me out of the house and I was afraid to call my dad again so I went to a friend's house...we ended up over someone else house, some older guys, and we all got drunk. I passed out at some point and woke up to him on top of me. When I realized where I was and what was going on, I started crying and freaking out, but he swore nothing had happened yet, and I was so out of my mind, I couldn't be sure. So I put it out of my mind and tried to forget. Until I found out I was pregnant. Still to this day, only 4 people Know my son is a result of rape. This world truly sucks and I'm terrified for my children's future.
Ariann·
Girl. They just shut down a YMCA daycare in my hometown because a worker was inappropriately touching some kids.. shit is unbelievable these days.
Lindsay··
I know! It scares me to think of something happening to my daughter because I would go freaking crazy on someone.
Ariann·
When my oldest 2 boys were young, I had to have that talk with them and ask them if anyone had ever done anything inappropriate with/to them. A "friend" of my sister and I was arrested and is serving life for sexually assaulting a minor. My boys spent A LOT of time with this person, because they loved being around his wifes kids, and he was always asking for my boys to come over for "boys nights" My kids didn't have a father figure in their lives until I met my husband, and I never suspected anything was up with him...my kids loved hanging out with this person. When I found out he had been arrested, I was physically ill for a long time. That was the hardest conversation I ever had to have, asking my boys about it, Because they were so young and I know they didn't really understand what I was asking. Thankfully, neither of my boys said anything ever happened to them.
Lindsay··
Oh my! I am so glad they weren’t abused. I was abused by my step brother for years. I never said anything because my mom had cancer and was dying. As a kid I just didn’t want anymore drama in my life so I kept quiet. My grandma suspected it and drilled me about it one day and I just denied it. Wish I would’ve spoken up back then because it scarred me for life. When my daughter is at an appropriate age, I’m going to have a conversation with her about it and explain what happened to me, sparing her the details, to let her know if anyone does anything like that to her she can tell me and trust that I will believe her and handle the situation.
As an adult I’ve shared what happened to me with other adults in my family and was shocked to find out it had happened to some of them too when they were kids.
Ariann··
oh man I'm so sorry you went through that! I also had something happen to me, I was raped when I was 16, still a virgin, and ended up pregnant. I never told anyone for years about the assault, and even after I told anyone, I didn't reveal that he was my childs father. I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 18 weeks, and it was at that point that I even 100% realized it had actually happened. When it happened, I had been drinking, my mom had kicked me out of the house and I was afraid to call my dad again so I went to a friend's house...we ended up over someone else house, some older guys, and we all got drunk. I passed out at some point and woke up to him on top of me. When I realized where I was and what was going on, I started crying and freaking out, but he swore nothing had happened yet, and I was so out of my mind, I couldn't be sure. So I put it out of my mind and tried to forget. Until I found out I was pregnant. Still to this day, only 4 people Know my son is a result of rape. This world truly sucks and I'm terrified for my children's future.
Lindsay··
I am so sorry that happened to you. That’s horrifying! 😭🙁
Ariann·
https://www.google.com/amp/s/articles.mlive.com/news/grand-rapids/index.ssf/2010/02/child_predator_convicted_by_ke.amp