I struggled with this daily. I would feel so awful I would plan to take her by herself once a week for some 1 on 1 time. Every.single.time half way through she would get so bored and start saying she wanted to go home and see her brother. And we were not doing boring things , we were toy shopping and I was giving her piggyback rides into and around stores. She didn't even want that "special" time with me lol 😂 I was making a HUGE deal out of something that never even phased her or crossed her mind. Now I definitely do make sure I take time and give her hugs and have her sit with me, as I know she is independent; more than the rest. But trust me, your older two will pair off and have a blast playing. Take time to just "be" and make the quality time really count, but I think us moms REALLY blow things out of proportion lol 😂 here I was planning "girls day" and she didn't really even care. As she gets older I think I will still try and do something similar, but now that she's so small, she'd rather be playing ..

You'll be fine mama. Things have a way of working themselves out. Those fears will be put aside when you see the awesome bond that your kids have. Me going on my fourth, I realize I am no longer a "play mate" but now I am just their mom. Which is okay. I can still play with them, but they don't look at me to entertain them anymore! Hallelujah lol 😂

ETA: the first 3 months will suck, I'll admit that. Make sure your dh is involved as much as possible in the beginning. If you make it through the first 3 months, you will be cruising 🙂