Yeah I guess I’m just feeling a little down and lonely. I feel like a useless mom and no matter what I do will never be enough for my son. My partner tells me everyday that I’m amazing and that I’m doing amazing with our son but I don’t feel like I am. I love my son to pieces that isn’t an issue it’s the loneliness and the hopelessness that I feel. I’m due to go and speak with my gp so I’ll bring it up there. @k1mt, how did u cope with it?x
I was feeling horrible when I got the help I needed, I felt like my hubby was about to leave, that our daughter would be better without me, like nobody wanted me back at work. I was falling apart and one morning thought about harming myself... That scared the life out of me so I reached out to my HV to begin with, had an hour with her and she made the diagnosis.
Then she made sure I contacted the GP, passed on her notes to him so I could spend the 10 minutes there discussing treatment options.
I went on citalopram for 6 months, which made a huge difference within a week. One night I started laughing at something on tv, and realised I couldn't remember the last time I'd laughed.
After 6 months, they started weaning me off it again, and told me if I felt low again to go back. By then, I had a much better support network around me and had developed some coping tools of my own.
I was given the option of counselling as well, but didn't want to take that up straight away (in the end I never took it up).
I did find that once I'd talked to my HV, it was easier to talk to hubby (he'd been through counselling a couple of years previously, following work related stress) then to his parents and mine (my mum had milder PND but wasn't treated, his mum had depression and antidepressants for a time, too).
I started regaining an interest in my hobbies too, and found learning to crochet helped immensely - it breaks my negative thinking cycles, and my daughter loves the things I make her.
Recognising you need some extra help, and asking for it, is a huge step to feeling better. Your GP will be able to talk to you about the various treatments that are available.
Listen to your partner, you are doing an amazing job with your son! You are not useless at all.
Being a mum is hard work, it is tiring and it's easy to feel shut away. When they're so little, it's even harder to know what they want or need (at least a 4 year old can tell you they're crying because they want a jaffa cake and you don't have any)
Are there any local groups you can go to, either for your son or yourself?
Do you have any hobbies, anything where you could meet up with others with a shared interest for an hour or 2?
Sounds like you had a tough time hun!! Glad you’ve over come it now😊. There are a few baby groups which I was told about by the HV and by my MW so I may look into going to them. It’s not that I don’t know what he wants because he only ever cries when he’s hungry and he’s a great baby and I love him dearly. I have a lot of support around me regarding my son. Like I said sometimes I just feel like I’m not enough or my son and partner deserve better. I feel helpless at times and I feel I let him down x @k1mt,
Jessica-Louise ·
Мама троих детей
Yeah you can xx
theodoresmammy·
Yes x
K1mT·
Мама дочки (4 года), беременна (22 нед.)
Mine was picked up at 1 year pp
Hope you're OK
Nicola·
Yeah I guess I’m just feeling a little down and lonely. I feel like a useless mom and no matter what I do will never be enough for my son. My partner tells me everyday that I’m amazing and that I’m doing amazing with our son but I don’t feel like I am. I love my son to pieces that isn’t an issue it’s the loneliness and the hopelessness that I feel. I’m due to go and speak with my gp so I’ll bring it up there. @k1mt, how did u cope with it?x
K1mT··
Мама дочки (4 года), беременна (22 нед.)
I was feeling horrible when I got the help I needed, I felt like my hubby was about to leave, that our daughter would be better without me, like nobody wanted me back at work. I was falling apart and one morning thought about harming myself... That scared the life out of me so I reached out to my HV to begin with, had an hour with her and she made the diagnosis.
Then she made sure I contacted the GP, passed on her notes to him so I could spend the 10 minutes there discussing treatment options.
I went on citalopram for 6 months, which made a huge difference within a week. One night I started laughing at something on tv, and realised I couldn't remember the last time I'd laughed.
After 6 months, they started weaning me off it again, and told me if I felt low again to go back. By then, I had a much better support network around me and had developed some coping tools of my own.
I was given the option of counselling as well, but didn't want to take that up straight away (in the end I never took it up).
I did find that once I'd talked to my HV, it was easier to talk to hubby (he'd been through counselling a couple of years previously, following work related stress) then to his parents and mine (my mum had milder PND but wasn't treated, his mum had depression and antidepressants for a time, too).
I started regaining an interest in my hobbies too, and found learning to crochet helped immensely - it breaks my negative thinking cycles, and my daughter loves the things I make her.
Recognising you need some extra help, and asking for it, is a huge step to feeling better. Your GP will be able to talk to you about the various treatments that are available.
Listen to your partner, you are doing an amazing job with your son! You are not useless at all.
Being a mum is hard work, it is tiring and it's easy to feel shut away. When they're so little, it's even harder to know what they want or need (at least a 4 year old can tell you they're crying because they want a jaffa cake and you don't have any)
Are there any local groups you can go to, either for your son or yourself?
Do you have any hobbies, anything where you could meet up with others with a shared interest for an hour or 2?
Nicola·
Sounds like you had a tough time hun!! Glad you’ve over come it now😊. There are a few baby groups which I was told about by the HV and by my MW so I may look into going to them. It’s not that I don’t know what he wants because he only ever cries when he’s hungry and he’s a great baby and I love him dearly. I have a lot of support around me regarding my son. Like I said sometimes I just feel like I’m not enough or my son and partner deserve better. I feel helpless at times and I feel I let him down x @k1mt,