Bit of a weird one tonight ladies. My daughters three in August - my husband is absolutely desperate for another but I’m…

Oh my goodness it’s so nice to speak to someone in near enough an identical situation to me.

We have ample of room in our house, we are desperate to find another house to renovate and then rent this one out, we put an offer on one not long ago and it fell through so I know with me going off work that would have to be put on hold. In September Poppy will have 30 hours free childcare and my childminder is happy to keep her on the same hours now and save the remainder hours for the school holidays when I won’t get the childcare. So the same as you my childcare wouldn’t change, I only work 3 days a week however I’m currently on a project with work I’ve worked for the same company for near enough 10 years and at the end of August we don’t know whether we will relocate to another location or be made redundant. I’m fully aware if I was pregnant when that happened they would have to pay me redundancy and full maternity.

Poppy idolises my mum, absolutely worships her I know if I was in hospital she would be in good hands, it’s more I don’t want to be away from her, I miss her terribly when we are apart. I’ve been in hospital several times since having her and they’ve always given me a side room so she can stay with me all day.

Your little boy sounds identical to Poppy she socialises amazingly (well apart from going through the “mine” stays at the moment)

We’ve tried for 18 months to have a baby and I think I’ve got to the stage I was so disheartened every month it made me appreciate what I have and how lucky I already am. I don’t know whether I want to go back to newborns, buggies, changing bags. I love how Poppy walks with me and communicates and laughs, I know new born babies are cute and I adore them but it’s different when they are your own. Poppy is also an amazing sleeper I dread the night feeds and being up all night. Poppy has problems with her chest and gets a lot of chest infections but even then she will get into bed with me and just snuggle to settle down.

I suppose I’m so used to just having poppy and her being the best person in my life I can’t imagine bringing another baby into that scenario xxx

@catherineln25, that all makes sense!

I’m dreading the newborn stage in many ways because of the feeding and sleepless nights but at the same time knowing I really don’t have to think about much during the day such as work has helped. My boy is chesty too and comes in with me which won’t be changing!

I can only imagine what trying for a baby with no luck is like we were very fortunate that it happened so quickly both times for us.

I know what you mean about the newborn stage of buggies etc but this time I also feel way more relaxed about it all! Realistically my life revolves around my little boy so we are not out the house for that many hours so how much will a baby actually need? I will buy myself a really nice backpack change bag this time so it’s not in the way. Buggy wise my little boy won’t need one much longer so going to try a buggy board and a baby jogger because they are a quick fold and light take up very little space.

The mine phase do they ever grow out of it 🤷🏻‍♀️😂 I got texts from my childminder two days in a row that he had been hit by others for not sharing toys (he was obviously ok) but it’s all character building and hopefully help him settle in nursery next April 😂.

My work is fully secure so makes my life a little easier that way as well. Only you know what’s best. Just think if you do change your mind poppy will be in 30hours free and maybe a little time at childminder still so wouldn’t be that much time away from you for baby then baby would be up and doing the same before you know it.

We are done at two though! When this baby arrives I will look into long term options of contraception right away! I’m doing built to be a mum of three

I’m good thanks hun! Hope you’re all doing well😘 and I’ll be 20 weeks on Thursday! Going so fast already!

Ahh yes I totally get how disheartening it is! It’s so hard and you definitely just start to look at what you’ve already got and are thankful for! We just said if it happens it happens, we didn’t want to stress over it so we just agreed to go with the flow!

I totally get what you mean though! As much as Sophia has grown she’s still a little girl and has so much more growing to do! Just explain to him that poppy is still so young.. as much as she’s independent and starting nursery soon, she’s still your baby and you want to cherish it all while she’s young and if a baby comes along in the future then that’s also a blessing and I’m sure if you do have another poppy would adapt! Sophia tells everyone she’s a big sister!🤣 although he’s not here yet!

It’s not a decision that’s easily made over night and I’m sure your partner will understand that, at the end of the day it’s you that’s got to carry the baby and give birth 🤣! Don’t stress about it, I’d just wait till poppy is in nursery and then go from there 😘 xxxxx