I think it's starting to bother me morally being pregnant and not married. But on the same note, I'd never want to rush / force anything. Huh... These hormones are making me EMO TIONAL 😫🙄
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@madhatter, yeah. That's the whole thing. It's been a recurring topic of discussion since we basically got together lol
He most recently gave timeline of being engaged 2019 and married 2020.
So im definitely not understanding the disconnect.
I think that's most disturbing, that he's fully expressed his intentions and it's not far off in said timeline, yet he'd let me have an internal battle with morality because...?
He uses that same ideology ("life doesn't exactly work on a schedule") as a rebuttal. That we are having the baby before marriage but it's not like we won't eventually get married. So what's the worry.
@rese I'm sorry you're going through that. That's immensely frustrating. The only reason I can think of is maybe financially he wanted to be in a different place or wants time to save up for the ring but those really aren't great reasons either. I hope he's able to start seeing it from your perspective. You shouldn't have to feel morally torn over a few month timeline he wants to keep.
@madhatter, thank you 💕 yeah hopefully he can understand more of how it makes me feel and his role in it all. Not think that he's just an innocent bystander and it's just me that's the problem.
What is marriage but a confirmation on a piece of paper. If you love each other you love each other. God knows.
It's just the formality of it. We're not even engaged.
that’s how i feel having two children and not being married, but he doesn’t want to get married and that bothers me too cause I’d like to be marry .
Yeah he wants to get married. Just in his own timing.
@disco.tits, yeah that's my thoughts on marriage. It's just the thing of how can you make such a commitment but not make the other in the same space.
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
Did she delete or block me?
did she delete or block me ?
You can always express how you're feeling and see what he says if you haven't talked about marriage yet. I don't think it's unreasonable to want to be married to the person you're having a baby with. Circumstances change in life, and feelings change. That doesn't necessarily mean you're rushing things. On the other hand though, the only thing that changed when I got married was my last name and I finally got my wedding ring. It really is just a piece of paper.