I recently found out my husband was sending and receiving nudes in a group chat. This comes after cheating on me almost a year earlier with his ex. He has apologize over and over deleted the group chat cried that he wants me and he just didn’t know what he was thinking. I keep saying to myself it’s only happened 2 times but a part of me wants to let go
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No one can tell you what to do. But one thing is for sure, no trust no relationship!
You Know better than any of us what your worth is and if that cheating situation is worth your happiness... I wish you luck!
When you stayed with him the first time, you gave him permission to do it again.
I feel like him saying “ I dont know what i was thinking “ is such a 💩 excuse. Uhm, stumbling into something like that accidentally, okay fine. But choosing to stay in that chat, sending and recieving nudes and interacting. He damn well was getting a kick out of it and enjoying it until he got caught up.
Definitely not something that should be brushing off after him cheating on you. It has only been a year, and he is still getting it off somehow with other women. Who knows what else he had been hiding. I would be extremely skeptical of him.
I get wanting to please your parents but at the end of the day, they don’t know what it is like being in your shoes. You will have to be the one dealing with him.
Think of why is he in your life. Is he there for you as he should be. Is being with him more of a positive influence in your life or does the negative outweigh everything else. Are you happy. Can you trust him. Does he follow through his words? So many things to think of.
I say take some time to yourself. Keep your distance from him to prevent it from affecting your decision &’ really dig deeep.
He leaves for military duty tomorrow
@mrs.dahlin, How long will he be gone?
Maybe while hes away gather your thoughts and try to be clear headed. Don’t act on it right at this moment since you just found out.
im sorry mamas💗 you dont deserve this and as the father of your kids. he is such a disappointment. what a great role model 🙄
@rndmshtt, he will be go e for about 3 days then home for 1 then gone for 3 weeks
If he was truly sorry, he wouldn’t have ever done it.. especially after he cheated on you before hand.. he knew he was doing wrong the whole time it was going on(for ever how long that was). I’m sorry that you’re going through this, no one should have to. No one can tell you how to feel, or what you should do love; that’s something only you can do. I’m not gonna say once a cheater always a cheater because people can change after a mistake, but if he did it again and who knows how many times he’s done it without you knowing.. I don’t think he will change. You do what’s best for you, don’t put anymore else’s opinions or feelings into play, this is for you to figure out if you wanna stay and work it out but continue to worry.. or leave and try to move on. I know it’ll be hard, especially you have two children to think about.. your son, do you want him to see this mess his father does to his mother? Or your daughter.. would you want her to stay in a situation like this? You don’t always have to leave forever.. time can heal a broken heart. If you ever wanna talk, I’m here darling. The best of luck💖💖
He’s cheated and then when he was supposed to be rebuilding trust with you, he violated that trust again. I’m sorry, but I don’t think he will change.
No one can tell you what to do. I will say from experience you caught him twice, that doesn’t mean it only happened twice.
Only you can make that choice hun. Make a pros ans cons list. I honestly do it every time me and my boyfriend fight and you have to be honest with yourself only you know when it's time to leave no one can tell you.
That’s two more times than it should have happened. Kick him to the curb. You deserve better and he absolutely will keep doing this kind of thing
I keep trying so hard to make excuses for him but at this point it’s kinda like I have no more. My parents keep telling me to work it out but I’m like idk if I want to anymore
It will not stop, he’s gotten away with it twice so far, so he knows he can keep doing it. And these are the things you’ve CAUGHT him with, I can guarantee this is not all that he’s done. I’m truly sorry you’re going through this, my advice is to leave. I’m speaking from experience, I know how hard it is. But it’ll be the best thing you ever do. You deserve someone who respects you, loves you, who will cherish you. Not someone who repeatedly fucks up, degrades you, and cheats every chance he gets. As far as your parents go, who cares what they think? They’re not in this marriage, they’re not being cheated on, ask your mom if her husband cheated TWICE, would she stay? Probably not. It’s so strange to me that they would even want you in marriage where your husband is unfaithful. I’d be the first one to tell my children to leave if their spouses ever cheated on them. Because it’s about their self-worth, their self-respect... once those things are stripped away, you change as a person... and it takes a hell of a long time to gain it back.