I’m due early July. My sil is getting married in October. My mil just texted me saying that doing my…
I’m due early July. My sil is getting married in October. My mil just texted me saying that doing my sil’s shower before I give birth is too early and wants to do it August 17. (Two days before my 30th birthday) she asked if I’m ok with it. I can’t make that call. I’ll have a newborn and be adjusting to having 2 kids. I’m not sure on how to respond so she doesn’t get offended. I truly want them to do whatever works for them and I’ll just have to evaluate it when the time comes. I can’t make that decision now without knowing my newborn or if they’ll be sleeping. My mil is also one to push through however she wants and get offended very easily. I just don’t know how to respond to her right now.
Mandy·
Are you responsible for throwing the shower or is it out of town? I'm confused . Baby will be around a month old bring the baby with you for a couple of hours to be polite or leave the baby at home.
Mish··
I plan on breastfeeding so leaving my baby isn’t an option. Honestly, it wouldn’t be if I wasn’t breastfeeding either. It’s just not what we do in our house. I am fully expected to attend and help. My sil isn’t having a bridal party but if she did, she’s told me on numerous occasions I would’ve been her Matron of honor. My question was more about phrasing to my MIL than what to do the day of.
Mandy··
just tell her that you'll be able to help as much as you can given that you'll have a newborn and that they should pick the day that works best for them
Terese·
Мама двоих (младенец)
I think you should say it just like you said it here, do whatever works for you guys and I will see how I am feeling at the time. Sometimes things come off wrong over text so maybe you can call her?
Mish··
👇🏽👇🏽👇🏽
Mish·
I texted her and said this whole thing about how I’m good with everything as long as my sil is loving the entire experience and that I have no way of knowing how my postpartum recovery will be so to plan how she would’ve if I wasn’t giving birth and I’ll just have to evaluate what I can do once we get closer.
Terese·
Мама двоих (младенец)
Perfect 👌🏻 you may be super tired and want to stay home or need an excuse to get some time for yourself and go, you never know. I had a hard time going from one to two but not everyone does, and it gets easier I promise
Mish··
Well that’s why I had previously asked if we could do it while I was still pregnant. I know that this baby will be small just like my first was and I’ll have to wake up and feed every two hours which is so exhausting. I just cringe thinking about having to get dolled up being that exhausted. Lol