I have always been someone to encourage others to have confidence in their body and embrace their…
I have always been someone to encourage others to have confidence in their body and embrace their "floors" after they've had a baby. After having my first I did struggle for a while, I did have pnd which I guess didn't help matters but after my body 'settled' and I got used to the changes I loved my body. I still had parts I hated by I learnt to only concentrate on the best parts. I spoke to loads of women struggling and helped give them the confidence again. After each baby I've embraced all the changes and continued to love my body.
But after having Olivia my body seems alien to me. I've gone from a size 8 to a size 10 - I know hardly a change and "nothing to moan about" but I feel awful. I feel fat, frumpy and flabby. I feel angry with my body for making Olivia poorly, being unable to carry her till full term. I feel completely lost. My boyfriend is amazing! He tells me im beautiful and sexy thousands of times a day but I just point out all my floors and tell him he's lying. Bless him, he rolls his eyes and tells me he loves me. I know I should listen to the person I was and listen to the advise I would have given myself. But my mind is just shut off and i just can't look at the person in the mirror with the same eyes. I've started calorie counting and doing hitt workouts. But it's all I think about and I hate it. It's driving me mad! I posted a picture after having Olivia on here & I felt so confident then. I honestly don't know why it changed or how to get that confidence down.
Excuse the half rant. I just needed to get it all out because I'm driving myself mad!!
Abby Rose⚘·
I just looked back at the picture you posted and you look amazing for just having a baby! I wish my body was like that...im covered in stretch marks and put 3 stone on, still have a stone to loose and im over a year in. You only had her 7 months ago, it takes 9 months to get your body like that so give it time to go back hun. Our bodys will never be how we was before but honestly you look so good! Dont feel shit about it try and embrace it i know its hard because i hate my body but then weve done something amazing and carried our babys xx
Carly··
I was a size 8 in that picture. I'm now a size 10.. thank you x
T ·
(Gonna sound like I’m mad but) Sit down, look at ya self in the mirror and talk to ya self like you would if it was someone else sittin back looking at ya. Have a word and tell ya self how ya beautiful your body is and how its done an amazing job not once but 4 times! It’s created 4 amazing babies, it protected and given them life, it gave them what they needed to grow, kept them safe and strong until they needed to come into this world be it early or late it still kept them babies safe and strong.
I used to ALWAYS hate my body and just focused on the negatives, I told myself a load of crap about my own body daily for years! When I found out I was pregnant I saw my body through new eyes even after having lil man I was full of confidence then after a few months I started to see it through old eyes, I hadn’t put in any weight through pregnancy but that lil voice came back slowly, I started to feel less confident then one night I was in the bath thinking about how I’d feel lil man kick on my left side etc and it just hit me like a ton of bricks to the face exactly how amazing my body was, yeah I had wobbly bits but honestly who ain’t? Sometimes ya just gotta have a word with ya self as no matter how many times someone tells ya something you can stop ya self from believing and listening. I prob sound mad lol xx
Carly··
See it's the person I see in the mirror that's the problem. It's like looking at a new me and it's unsettling. When I avoid the mirror or worrying about what I'm eating I'm perfectly fine. But the rest of the time... Thank you x
Kate Bodell·
I understand eeeevery word of this. I was a size 8 and still a size 8 after having 3 kids (minus my current baby bump) I no longer have boobs, I feel fat and flabby. I have absolutely 0 body confidence. My husband tells me I’m sexy and I just feel like he’s lying and he’s just saying it because he has to say it.
Carly··
💯% !! I feel like I shouldn't moan either because we get told if your 'slim' you shouldn't have anything to moan about. But even though I am 'slim' in size I don't feel it x
Carly·
Ladies can the implant cause weight gain? I feel since I had it back in October that's it the reasons for feeling this way both mentally and physically. I feel moody, stressed 24/7 ive had panic attacks that I haven't had in years. Im constantly bleeding ( 9 weeks and counting ) & feel bloated no matter what I eat which makes me look 3 months pregnant, which leads to me feeling fat and flabby... ??