@ejwsmomma120215 I have been in your shoes my ex husband the father of my older 4 and his now ex wife said all of that to me and more and it was worse when I was pregnant just because they knew it would get a rise out of me. My kids are older but I eventually just stopped communicating unless it was related to our current situation. I also used an app for communication and no more texting or calls. If he did text I sent a generic message: please send this to me in ____ app (I can't remember the name ). After a few months it got better but now he's incarcerated and divorced so no clue how he'll act once he's out. Best of luck to you & I hope it gets better soon.
luckily he doesn't know I'm pregnant right now, but with already having anxiety problems and the hormones being way worse, it all just hits hard. It's hard being told you're in the wrong when you know you're not. I'll just agree with my gram for now that karma will bite them both in the ass.
First, tell the new chick "This is a family matter between myself and his father. I'd appreciate it if you'd stay in your lane and allow me and **** to handle this situation as adults and not children". Then block her .
Then tell the dad " I'm sorry you feel it's my fault for whatever you're accusing me of but at the end of the day I am there for our son. You can still have your every other weekend visits whether or not you take them and may request extra time in advance if you'd like. We're adults who should handle it as such. I'll see you *whatever date is next*. Please don't contact me unless it's to set up extra time to spend with our child, discuss an issue with our child, or providing money or necessities for our child "
Then leave it at that.
Calm, cool, collected, classy and great proof to use if you need to go a legal route.
she bitched me out for moving into my SOs house when my ex even said I should move in with him. I've at least been with him for a while, knew him long before we dated, and I took myself and my son out of another situation. Where I live and stuff doesn't matter to her. And with just getting with my ex, she shouldn't be concerned about my child either. His mom even told her he's a cheater and compulsive liar. I told the bitch I have screenshots to back EVERYTHING up.
This is between you and him. If you're also recieving messages from her, I would block her. Just keep being the bigger person. If he'd like more visits and you're open to it then leave it at he's welcome to come over more and you're sorry he feels that way. You don't have to respond anymore than that.
@ejwsmomma120215 Absolutely not. I would tell him you'll see him in court. He shouldn't have your child around anyone on drugs or that is leaving drugs around. That's an extremely dangerous situation. You'll probably still have to follow the court order and let him take your son for recommended times for now but I wouldn't let it continue until he has a safe environment to bring your son into. Her attitude has to change to but that sounds like the least of your worries with her being on drugs around your son.
he knows how to pick'em. He tried claiming I was on drugs, so I told him I'd take a drug test. My job requires drug tests and background checks, obviously I can pass one 🤦♀️
Don't even bother going back and forth with him about it. It's not worth your time or energy. He can say whatever he wants in court. You know you'll pass and then he'll just look even worse. I would completely ignore them both. If he messages about pick up/drop off that's the only time I would answer.
Tell him "Listen (his name), you have every other weekend which you still manage to miss some and when i have offered you extra time you deny it. I have done my part and you still haven't proven you can be around even on your given time. If you feel you need to blame me to make yourself feel better, by all means, go right ahead. I will see you at your next pickup." And leave it. Hes just trying to.make himself look like the victim to everyone.
he blames me for our son not having both of us together, when all he did was lie and cheat the whole time. He says that's why it's all my fault and why I'm the one hurting "his son" how he put it. Even after I exclaimed I'm the one supporting him, holding him when he cries, cares for him, supplies everything he needs, and more. He doesn't even pay child support at this point and snapped on me because I didn't send cough medicine, diapers, clothes, and underwear to his house because it isn't my responsibility. He thinks a judge will grant him every weekend when, after being the one in the middle of a custody battle for 18 yrs, that'll never happen.
he's psychotic, and extremely mental at this point. I left him because he ended up endlessly cheating, neglecting our son, he quit his job while I was working part time and had me paying for everything and caring for him and our son. Our bills combined were well over $2500 and I was lucky to make $1000. I finally left when he snuck a girl in while I was at work and slept with her in front of our son. But it's my fault our son couldn't have both parents together.
You could take him back to court for that. You can also add things like you discuss nothing but the kids or she's not allowed to get involved in family stuff etc
@ejwsmomma120215 ugh thats tough. Sorry momma. Quilty people will always try to pin it on someone else. You're only in control of your actions. Let them be negative in their own space. Don't give them the power. Every bad thing they do counter it with positive thoughts.
@sleepymommy I have major anxiety, then my hormones have already been making it worse. So once the everything's your fault, you're the reason he's in a split family, I wanted more time with him and you denied it, comes out. It hits hard. Plus she's playing shit she has no right too.
Ashley ·
Многодетная мама (5 детей)
@ejwsmomma120215 I have been in your shoes my ex husband the father of my older 4 and his now ex wife said all of that to me and more and it was worse when I was pregnant just because they knew it would get a rise out of me. My kids are older but I eventually just stopped communicating unless it was related to our current situation. I also used an app for communication and no more texting or calls. If he did text I sent a generic message: please send this to me in ____ app (I can't remember the name ). After a few months it got better but now he's incarcerated and divorced so no clue how he'll act once he's out. Best of luck to you & I hope it gets better soon.
Amber Hollifield··
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (23 нед.)
luckily he doesn't know I'm pregnant right now, but with already having anxiety problems and the hormones being way worse, it all just hits hard. It's hard being told you're in the wrong when you know you're not. I'll just agree with my gram for now that karma will bite them both in the ass.
Shay·
Мама двоих (1 год, 5 лет)
First, tell the new chick "This is a family matter between myself and his father. I'd appreciate it if you'd stay in your lane and allow me and **** to handle this situation as adults and not children". Then block her .
Then tell the dad " I'm sorry you feel it's my fault for whatever you're accusing me of but at the end of the day I am there for our son. You can still have your every other weekend visits whether or not you take them and may request extra time in advance if you'd like. We're adults who should handle it as such. I'll see you *whatever date is next*. Please don't contact me unless it's to set up extra time to spend with our child, discuss an issue with our child, or providing money or necessities for our child "
Then leave it at that.
Calm, cool, collected, classy and great proof to use if you need to go a legal route.
Good luck!
Amber Hollifield··
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (23 нед.)
she bitched me out for moving into my SOs house when my ex even said I should move in with him. I've at least been with him for a while, knew him long before we dated, and I took myself and my son out of another situation. Where I live and stuff doesn't matter to her. And with just getting with my ex, she shouldn't be concerned about my child either. His mom even told her he's a cheater and compulsive liar. I told the bitch I have screenshots to back EVERYTHING up.
Shay··
Мама двоих (1 год, 5 лет)
those women are irritating too.
I've dealt with stuff like this before 😂😂😂 turned out shitty for me though but that's life sadly.
Hope she stays in her lane lol.
Amber Hollifield··
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (23 нед.)
if she doesn't I'll throw that bitch into her lane permanently
Madi M.·
В ожидании первенца
This is between you and him. If you're also recieving messages from her, I would block her. Just keep being the bigger person. If he'd like more visits and you're open to it then leave it at he's welcome to come over more and you're sorry he feels that way. You don't have to respond anymore than that.
Madi M.··
В ожидании первенца
@ejwsmomma120215 Absolutely not. I would tell him you'll see him in court. He shouldn't have your child around anyone on drugs or that is leaving drugs around. That's an extremely dangerous situation. You'll probably still have to follow the court order and let him take your son for recommended times for now but I wouldn't let it continue until he has a safe environment to bring your son into. Her attitude has to change to but that sounds like the least of your worries with her being on drugs around your son.
Amber Hollifield··
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (23 нед.)
he knows how to pick'em. He tried claiming I was on drugs, so I told him I'd take a drug test. My job requires drug tests and background checks, obviously I can pass one 🤦♀️
Madi M.··
В ожидании первенца
Don't even bother going back and forth with him about it. It's not worth your time or energy. He can say whatever he wants in court. You know you'll pass and then he'll just look even worse. I would completely ignore them both. If he messages about pick up/drop off that's the only time I would answer.
Lisa·
Мама сына-младенца
Tell him "Listen (his name), you have every other weekend which you still manage to miss some and when i have offered you extra time you deny it. I have done my part and you still haven't proven you can be around even on your given time. If you feel you need to blame me to make yourself feel better, by all means, go right ahead. I will see you at your next pickup." And leave it. Hes just trying to.make himself look like the victim to everyone.
Amber Hollifield··
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (23 нед.)
he blames me for our son not having both of us together, when all he did was lie and cheat the whole time. He says that's why it's all my fault and why I'm the one hurting "his son" how he put it. Even after I exclaimed I'm the one supporting him, holding him when he cries, cares for him, supplies everything he needs, and more. He doesn't even pay child support at this point and snapped on me because I didn't send cough medicine, diapers, clothes, and underwear to his house because it isn't my responsibility. He thinks a judge will grant him every weekend when, after being the one in the middle of a custody battle for 18 yrs, that'll never happen.
Lisa··
Мама сына-младенца
just ignore the texts unless they pertain to your son being picked up, dropped off of emergencies. He sounds like a hoot to deal with.
Amber Hollifield··
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (23 нед.)
he's psychotic, and extremely mental at this point. I left him because he ended up endlessly cheating, neglecting our son, he quit his job while I was working part time and had me paying for everything and caring for him and our son. Our bills combined were well over $2500 and I was lucky to make $1000. I finally left when he snuck a girl in while I was at work and slept with her in front of our son. But it's my fault our son couldn't have both parents together.
Melissa ·
Мама двоих (младенец)
Do you have kids together?
Melissa ··
Мама двоих (младенец)
@ejwsmomma120215 Get a court ordered parenting plan
Amber Hollifield··
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (23 нед.)
@divinely_favored we have one, that's where his every other weekend is stated, that he constantly cancels.
Melissa ··
Мама двоих (младенец)
You could take him back to court for that. You can also add things like you discuss nothing but the kids or she's not allowed to get involved in family stuff etc
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If he's an ex why give him so much power.?
Adrienne··
Мама сына (1 год)
@ejwsmomma120215 ugh thats tough. Sorry momma. Quilty people will always try to pin it on someone else. You're only in control of your actions. Let them be negative in their own space. Don't give them the power. Every bad thing they do counter it with positive thoughts.
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@ejwsmomma120215 if you know your doing everything right why sweat them
Amber Hollifield··
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (23 нед.)
@sleepymommy I have major anxiety, then my hormones have already been making it worse. So once the everything's your fault, you're the reason he's in a split family, I wanted more time with him and you denied it, comes out. It hits hard. Plus she's playing shit she has no right too.