Wondering if anyone else has experienced what I’m feeling:
I had my daughter 1 year ago via c section. My mother, aunt and Nan all had c sections due to different reasons. Through my pregnancy I then thought I must be the same. I got induced and all was going well. I was examined after having my epidural and was 8cm around 11pm. Had a little sleep and when I woke the room was full of doctors. I was sick, shaking, high temp and baby had fast heart rate. Me and baby both had an infection. They told me “ this baby needs to come out now” you have to have a c section. I didn’t cry but I felt, weak, a failure and upset. A year on, I can’t watch natural births, I can’t watch “ one born every minute” I feel jealous when I hear other women’s birth stories and constantly feel like a failure. I love my baby and glad she’s safe and healthy but I can’t get this horrible pain to go inside me. Having had a c section kills me inside. I’d love another one but if I had to have another c section, I don’t think I could cope 😭
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I was so traumatised from my birth to, i was induced, in labour for the 3 days got to 10cm waa pushing for 2 hours then it all went downhill and i had a emergency c section, i felt like i was about to die while having it done, i ended up having sepsis after and was in hospital for a week, i never got to hold my daughter for 4 hours after, everyone else got to hold her before me, i was so traumatised so the surgeon came round and went through it all with me, why it all happened ect x
I know the exact feeling hun. I still deal with it now. I'm just coming to terms with what happened. My c section went wrong and they couldn't wake me for a long time and I lost alot of blood. I've said I wouldn't have another because of what happened and I feel its too risky. But please understand that what your feeling is normal. I didn't tell people about my birth for a long time because hearing everyone else's made me upset. I didn't feel like a real woman. I'm always here if you need a chat xxxx
I gave birth to my third child in Oct 2017 via emergency csection. I had two completely normal births before that. My csection was horrific, I was under anaesthetic, my husband wasn’t allowed in the room and my daughter was born with neither of her parents there to hold and soothe her. That still eats away at me now. I failed so badly at labour, my daughter was born without us there for her. I’m having my 4th baby in June and I have elected to have a csection out of fear I will fail again and I’ll have a repeat emergency under anaesthetic.
I have given birth both ways now and I can honestly say I found my csection a lot worse to recover from physically. There are no prizes for how you give birth. You just do it however your body needs to. No shame in labour, no shame is csections planned or unplanned, no shame in taking painkillers or needing drugs to help you along. At the end of the day babe, you’ve given birth, you’ve bought a beautiful little person into the world. Be so proud of yourself! X
I'm from Coventry too 😁
I can't help personally but @megan-leigh may have some advice, she posted something similar a few months ago (hope you don't mind me tagging you hun) xx
Hey everyone. Thankyou all so much for your comments. This really means a lot 😘💗xxx