Well it’s official my husband uses me to dump all his stress from the day. Has happened every week for a while now, noticing a pattern... any advice? How do I keep my son from not hearing it?
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Yes, find an outlet. My DH plays video games when he is stressed.
We don’t talk about work unless it’s something important. He typically talks to his co workers or friends about it. He uses home as a safe haven and if he can’t find anyone to talk to he goes to the gym. Maybe he can find an outlet like that to distress.
His coworkers are the problem, the source of his stress and he doesn’t have a lot of friends. I try to relate to him and try to help but when he is mad everything I say is wrong. I have asked him to work out to release that energy but nothing changes 😓
My husband does that too. I talk to him about it but it’s like he forgets. We always argue when he comes home from work because he’s in a mood.
It’s happened every week for the last few months and he forgets about it too. Maybe it’s something in the air 🤨😢
Tell him to keep that stuff outside before he enters. If he needs to vent then he should do it in a healthy way and not use you as a punching bag. He can relax in his car on the driveway if he really needs it before he steps in, maybe?
Yep! We talked about it after we have ended up arguing so many times to keep work stuff out of the house. Yell in the car if u need to. Just don’t come home and curse in front of our child while I’m trying to breastfeed
I always tell my husband I understand the weight on his shoulders, I appreciate all of his hard work and effort but it hurts me when he lashes out. Usually that gets a much better response than yelling or arguing back
@vvrobinson, well today he came home super pissed out because his co worker treated him bad. I was breastfeeding Frank and he started talking about work, got mad, starting cursing so I took frank into another room. He followed me and said I’m not understanding. I’m trying so hard!!! I told him to stop doing this in front of frank I don’t want to argue. He left the house, the dogs were locked out in the backyard and has not come home, it’s been a hour. I have told him that this all hurts our family and it doesn’t seem to matter, it just happens again a week after.
@vvrobinson, we have talked about it multiple of times calmly like you suggested, has not worked for me. I’m out of ideas
@tanirani well to be honest with you I have to say I understand him. Working in a toxic environment takes a huge toll. I used to work in a jewelry store. I came home and cried every single night. I stress ate and was absolutely miserable. My husband still cringes when I mention working there. I understand his frustration from his coworkers and needing to vent. But you're right it is very wrong to do it in front of the kiddo and walking out is not ok. I think you need to lay very STRICT boundaries on when it's ok to vent
He should start going to the gym to relieve stress