So my sons father left when my son was a month old literally 3 days after he turned a month. I’ve been having such a hard time trying to cope with it he still texts me and calls me everyday asking what I’m doing and how I am but rarely ever speaks of the baby. He stops by once a week to say hi and see him but it’s only for like 30 minutes and leaves but he says he loves me and wants to be with me but doesn’t want his family to know, his family didn’t accept me having a child. I have this false hope that he’s going to come back and we’re going to be happy but he doesn’t quite show it when he comes over and sits there barely playing or being close to his son. I don’t know what to do It’s been 3 months of this and soon I’m moving about 45 minutes from where I live now and I hate to think we really won’t see each other then and he won’t see his son. I still love him so much it’s been 4 1/2 amazing years with him considering we lost a child about 2 years ago and this is our miracle baby he just doesn’t seem to care.
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Unless he's just full of shit and leading you on. He doesn't have to own up to anything if he can blame his family. Either way he needs to grow up
@bcharron12, I’m sorry mama. They suck and your sons dad needs to put up for you guys talk to him about it.
I wonder if maybe he's began grieving the child again that you guys lost? Like he's scared to get close to another one? If he really loves you and wants to be with you, then he'll find a way to see you. If he doesn't make an effort, then try you darndest to move on, focus on your son.
@arkycanchaser, I appreciate that sometimes it’s better off hearing it that way
Put him on child support. Move. Ensure you have custody where you live, if not, file for it. Move on. You and your child deserve better. If he wants to be a part of his son's life 45 mins is nothing and won't stop him.
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
Question. I just left my husband for cheating and now hes been harassing me. Hes threatening to come get our son. I dont care if he sees his son but I'm not comfortable with him leaving with him bc hes never taken care of him a day In his life and he might use him against me. Am I wrong for feeling this way??
My boyfriend hasn’t changed ONE diaper ever and my son is 9 months old. He hasn’t fed him in about 5 months, he doesn’t bath him and hes never been left alone with him and he doesn’t even wake up during the night to help with him. He MAYBE washes the bottles at night if it’s a good day and I’m confused as to how bc I’m a woman IM supposed to do all that by myself?? lmfao ya no.
@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer.
My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk out...
I find it very alarming when we see for MONTHS “My husband doesn’t want another child”...”He wants to wait”...”he won’t have sex with me”....and then you keep trying to conceive anyways and when you do get pregnant ask us all a cute way to announce it to him? This is entrapment....conceiving behind someone’s back then unveiling it as a gift seems so incredibly disturbing to me..
End rant.
Welp. They'll have to accept paying child support! And the babies father is a child himself if he can't realize his family is rejecting HIS child and then needs to stay with them and get their approval over doing right by his child- boy bye