My husband and I are in a never ending spiral...he does something that drives me crazy, and I get upset, then I do something and he gets upset. It’s basically like we live in two different worlds, he never appreciates the things I do daily and taking care of our children, and I guess I have a hard time seeing how he could be so exhausted after a day at work -non manual labor job - it’s an office job, and it’s like things that I would assume most normal couples just let go or help the other and take care of, but because of his annoying way of always pointing out everything rather than just helping me, I have started to do it to him too. I hate the person I am becoming, it’s not me, I am laid back, easy going, carefree, well I used to be anyway...I really am at a loss of where to go from here. Also side note; we haven’t had sexual in a really long time but I just cannot being myself to do it after he’s been a dick to me, and well that’s a pretty much almost daily occurrence. #help
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I'm literally going through the same thing. I did talk to my boyfriend about how I felt though and this time, for once, it seemed to work. I basically just wanted to feel loved and I haven't in a while... told him how I felt and how it could be helped and he took me advice. Although at times I still feel like there's this imaginary wall between us that we can't break through and it makes me feel so far away from him
It sounds like you all need to communicate about how you are feeling. Tit for tat gets no one anywhere
I legit just had this exact feeling come up and I sat down with my partner and ask him his expectations then went through and talked about what is possible and what is not and did the same for me it's really easy to let each other down if you are kind of at a loss of what the other wants/needs. I go back to work soon and my next semester starts with a newborn and irritated partner i cant do it so i needed to figure out how to solve the problem, so far it's been a lot better!! Hope that helps keep your head up and a line of communication open!
Good luck hope it helps
No way to go into the holidays and the new year sounds like from my perspective a sitter is needed and a dinner date even if it's home or something of surprise.
We all have moments where we want to scream and run to the hills. I'm sorry you feel like this and i hope it gets better.
Tell him your doing the best you can in this moment of being mom and s@hm! It's hard tough to do wyat you do. Not that you are downing what he does.
Take a breath a hot bubbly bath when needed and breath momma. Your got this.
Your sweet. Thanks! If I had more energy I’d totally take a bubble bath. I’ll keep it in mind’
I know that feeling what I have found is to remember that I am not the only one feeling things it is incredibly important to get his side too, sometimes you have to push a little harder to find how they are feeling but its important to make these conversations 2 sided not just 1. But with that being said I always have to remember there are some things going on in him I cant fix only giving him time and space to fix them for himself is just as important as me working on what I can for myself.