I have a serious question I’m very conflicted right now, I babysit for one of my friends and her…
I have a serious question I’m very conflicted right now, I babysit for one of my friends and her daughters are 6 months and the other one is almost 3. The older child doesn’t talk and she refuses to be potty trained, she has delayed development and I’ve been trying to work with her but she refuses talking and doing normal toddler things, she also shows signs of autism like when she hears a loud noise (vacuum, door closing, etc) she ducks her head and covers her ears and will stay like that for a while. Her youngest daughter is also fairly delayed but since she’s still hitting milestones it’s not as concerning, the thing is everytime I bring up something like that she ignores me or dismisses it. I’m not sure how to go about this I want her children to thrive but any of my concerns for them she kind of blows it off, if you were in my position how would you approach this?
K·
Unfortunately there’s not much you can do if the mom won’t listen. Maybe keep trying to work with the girl.
Ciara Jade·
@kbbaybee16, I know I’ve tried multiple times. We are working with learning small words and abcs, my twins are out of preschool for the time being so I’m hoping with them around things will start to click for her seeing other children doing these things. I will probably try to speak with her mom about it again if she’s still not showing interest in things hopefully then she will listen.
K··
Try sign language I know it’s hard and a lot but my son is speech delayed and sign opened up his speech and communication abilities
prettyinpunk·
Мама троих детей
All you can do is keep trying, mom is going to look back one day and everything will click. Just know, you're trying to do what's right. Most moms don't want to admit when someone else notices something and they didn't, she may hear everything you're saying and she may be embarrassed about it. Hopefully she can talk to her pediatrician next time she goes in.
Ciara Jade·
@prettyinpunk, thank you I’ve been trying to stay calm about it but it’s kind of irritating at times, I feel like I’m more concerned than she is. I hope next time they do visit the pedi she will talk to them about it maybe things will turn around for her though. The biggest thing is they don’t work with either children it seems like they leave the baby in a bouncer all the time (the most she can do is lift her head and roll over) and ignore the older girl. I’ve been working with both and have seen small improvements but once they go home and come back they seem like they lost all memory of what they learned. I’m crossing my fingers and hoping for the best 🤞🏻
prettyinpunk··
Мама троих детей
That is so sad. Atleast the girls are lucky to have you. All you want is what's best for them. Fingers crossed something positive happens for them.
Ciara Jade·
@kbbaybee16, I’ll give it a shot it may help her I know she understands a lot but she just refuses to do anything. Her mom said she does it at home too but with her mom she will let her point and whine for what she wants then she gives it to her, it’s setting her up for everyone to do that for her and not showing her good communication skills.
K··
Well I let my son whine about stuff as well. And I got mad when someone said it was my fault my son was delayed. I was seeking help because I didn’t have the right tools to help him. We started speech therapy and it’s been amazing. My son had severe fluid in his ears but no ear infections. We didn’t know he couldn’t hear. And my husband didn’t believe me. Once we discovered how much he loved sign language and how much it helped it’s motivated me to learn more and more. Sign is a stepping stone to talking. Pinterest has lots of signs. First ones we learned was more, please, help, and we took off from there. It’s only been 3 months and we are up to 40 signs and 94 words
Brooke H·
I'm a momnof a 8 yr old who is delayed bad. And as a parent you don't want to hear that something is wrong with your child! It took me months to understand and that was 5 yrs ago and I still get mad and upset when I hear something else my child has wrong with him. Maybe it's not that she isn't hearing or taking in what you say. It's hard!! My son don't have autism but can't handle loud noises. My son has very bad sensory issues and it effects the noises. So give her time and let the Dr tell her about her kids.