So I still have till July but I like to have plans ready early but my sons first birthday with my…
So I still have till July but I like to have plans ready early but my sons first birthday with my husband (not his bio father but the only father he knows) last year I invited all his family and no a single one showed up including his mother that insists that my son call her nana. Well I was talking with my husband about these plans I had for my daughters first birthday and my mother in law of course just walks in my house not even invited or called to see if it was ok and goes oh well I want to do this that and the other for her party me and my husband talked and both agreed since not a single one of his family members showed up to my sons birthday they were not invited to my daughters. What do you guys think are we being to harsh? I honestly don’t think we are
BakingDaddy ·
I'm in between. It's not cool to deny your daughter those memories with her family. But then i also wouldn't let my family treat my kids different either.
Alexia Dahlin··
Мама двоих (младенец)
My husband was so mad and I was so hurt
XryztalRoze·
Spend it with your FAMILY, that's the 4 of you, NOT your relatives. Your marriage, your children, your choice.
XryztalRoze·
It's not harsh at all. Whatever you allow now will set a precedent for future behavior. Better for them to not have grandparents than grandparents who will treat them differently in such a manner. They will already be learning hard lessons from the world around you, they don't need to learn favoritism against or for one another from so called family.
Alexia Dahlin··
Мама двоих (младенец)
That’s what I’m saying they are gonna make my kids grow up to hate one another because one was a favorite and one was not
XryztalRoze··
@lexigravera2497 Both of mine are my inlaws biological grandchildren and they only care about my oldest. They want nothing to do with my second born. It was not easy for my husband to say something to him parents and he knew once he did there was no going back and that bc of their culture and personalities it would not go over well. But he did what was right for our girls knowing that they deserved to have people who would help them build their relationship with one another. That is the very most important relationship (other than with God, future spouses) in their lives, not break it down. Well, he politely said something and they blew their tops and walked out. Goodbye! We have been more than patient, respectful, and prayerful hoping it would change. But it only got worse and affected my almost 3 years old. Her behavior got really bad. They undermined us as parents and ignored her new baby sister. She didn't understand and couldn't express herself. That is not fair, not right, NOT ok!!! And your little boy doesn't deserve that from his grandparents, blood related of not. He is a precious little child who is not old enough to have done something to deserve such treatment. Talk to them and give them a chance to rectify their behavior and if it doesn't work change, walk away. You and your husband must make a United front and be on the same page easy or not. You don't always have to like whatever the decisions made are but you must stand together to make the very best choices for BOTH of your children!!! It's not always easy but trust me it is worth it!!!!!!!!!!! My little girl is almost back to herself now and we have an incredible amount of peace in our home life now.
XryztalRoze··
Sorry for the book here, but something else: it's not just your children who you are protecting by being strong and putting boundaries now, you are also protecting yourself, your husband, and ultimately your marriage. Marriage has no room for negative outside influences.