So here is an update.....me n hubby went to couple therapy just past Sunday. We talked and had a mediator. We got out everything that we been going through that was keeping us from being happy. He actually was active and listened n gave me a chance to talk. It went very well the mediator have us some advice n actually got on my hubby bc he still havr baggage from his ex wife time. The person who mediated us was the person who married us anf also dealt with my hubby and his ex wife when they was married. He also help raise me believe it or not. So he know my family very well n told my hubby he going to miss his upgrade.. He told him I'm his upgrade n he will drive me away if he don't let his past go. He told him to be the example of how to act when we get into a disagreement. He needs to walk away. He suggested us to make a list when ever we get upset at each other n leave it where the other can see n discuss it when the upset person is calmed down. We had a very long heart to heart talk to the point i saw him cry for the very first time. I think we can make it. He promised there will be no more comparing temper tantrums ("rages") n o tolf him i will let my daughter n him deal with my ex( daughter dad) i will no longer talk to him as much or as of now none unless its an emergency. I came back home from my parents house with open arms. He told me he have an new appreciation towards. I think it took someone we look up to.to show us the error of our ways. He keep asking me if I'm glad to be home n he loves me. O love him too.