So frustrated. I had one thing to say about our sons name. I said I wanted Thomas-David as the middle name after my…
So frustrated. I had one thing to say about our sons name. I said I wanted Thomas-David as the middle name after my grandfather that passed when I was in 4th grade. I was VERY close to him, he was like a dad figure. My boyfriend ended up saying he didn't want David in there because God forbid his ex's dad's middle name was David. Does he not realize that's my dad's middle name? That more than one person can have the same middle name? Then he brought up how his son from his past relationships middle name is David. I keep repeating why I wanted Thomas-David and how it was 2 middle names. Not just David. Pointed out my half sister has the same exact middle name as me. Myself and my 3 siblings (mom's kids, not dads) are named after family. Like idc what you pick for the first name, at least I didn't say I wanted Thomas David for his full name. But I always told myself Thomas David would be a part of one of my kids names some day. I'm Not backing down on that.
Tanya Tanaka·
Мама двоих (младенец), ждёт третьего
My brother and sister both have the same middle name. We named my daughters with my middle name and if this baby is a girl she will also have the same middle name as us. I love the concept of having the same middle names. Who actually ever uses middle names anyways? If you want it then do it. He will get over it. You get to fill the birth certificate out so go for it momma! I'm totally on your side!
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He needs to move on and stop thinking about his exes. That sounds like the real issue here. I would flat out tell my man this would mean a lot to me and to stop thinking about your exes and my man would 100% tell me the same thing. He’s having a baby with you and starting a whole new life and journey with YOU. There is no reason for him to talk about his exes and especially not let them affect his decisions.
Amber Hollifield··
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (16 нед.)
@mia.mcc it's crazy too when it's been almost 2.5yrs since they got divorced. We're fighting right now because it's the endless comparison. How they did this and that, and she would do this. But I don't. And it's coming down to me feeling like complete and utter shit and worthless.
Victoria Sorrone·
Мама дочки-младенца
When we picked names it was hard bc we had to weed out a bunch of name because of previous people we knew
Amber Hollifield··
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (16 нед.)
it's like impossible to do that with me lol. I've moved a lot and know A LOT of people. Plus on my side I have a HUGE family compared to him.
Beaky Mcspence·
В ожидании первенца
If he already has a child with the middle name David then I can see why that wouldn’t work.
I think it’s kind of unrealistic that your not willing to compromise on that. I’d not want both my children to have the same middle name.
You may not like the opinion, but I completely agree with your SO...I’d feel the same if my older child already had that name.
Amber Hollifield··
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (16 нед.)
@momsrmagical she was probably excited to have someone close named Jocelyn since she didn't have her own with that name. Better to have a neice with the name if you don't have your own daughter with it!
cantdeletebutimgone··
Мама дочки (4 года)
yeah I'm glad it all worked out
cantdeletebutimgone··
Мама дочки (4 года)
yeah, that's not right
cantdeletebutimgone·
Мама дочки (4 года)
When it comes down to it you are the final decision maker it's your child do what makes you happy. With my daughter I told my SO he had no choice but to agree on a name with Lynn in it. Because it was my mother's name who passed away 10 years ago at the time she had five grandsons and no granddaughters. When I found out I was having a girl before I knew I was having a girl I said her name will have Lynn in it if it is a girl. I also agree that it's okay for family members to have the same first or middle name. My sister's second son passed away and she gave her youngest her son's middle name who passed away as her youngest's middle name.
Amber Hollifield··
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (16 нед.)
@momsrmagical I grew up with a family of matching middle names. A lot of us have middle names after someone in the family. I'm after my aunt, sister is after a cousin, brother another cousin, adopted brother has my grandmother's middle name. My son is after his dad, half sister on dad's side has mine. My SO also has same first name as his son but never gave his ex an issue. So my SO goes my Jeremy and his son is Jeremiah, so won't ever be able to shorten his son's name to Jeremy or it'll get very confusin