You ask for advise on this app and get a whole bunch of judgmental women coming at you. 🙄
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Because people don't agree with castor oil? When you get pregnant you are signing yourself up for the chance of going to 42 weeks. I can't believe people still take castor oil.
@chasinghappiness it can kill babies. Is having a dead baby worth no longer being in pain?
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@chasinghappiness, you can ask should I wash my baby’s clothes and people gonna be like there’s dangerous stuff in the warehouse blah blah blah Lml
Welcome to Mom life 🤷🏻♀️ when you post a question be ready for the lions and know it alls to run in your mouth for 1. Asking and 2. Not knowing , it never made sense to me lol it’s because most of these women are know it alls that have nothing else to do and this is how they are in REAL LIFE. It hasn’t been done to me be lordddd am I waiting lol
@chasinghappiness, don’t let that stop you this app is a good place to come trust me and the ones doing the judging are really a small select few of women .. the good out weights the bad .. ask awayyy !! And girls like me will always come and educate you or we can get educated together lmao I thought castor oil was a valid method to start labor up I’ve never tried but I heard of so many girls doing it then again last time I was pregnant was 6 yrs ago
@realprettilex, thank you ☺️. Yeah you’re right. This is my 3rd pregnancy and I’m just now learning that castor oil is horrible. Maybe these women should write articles to educate women better. It’s still being recommended
@nap.queen, get that but as I’ve explained that wasn’t the case here.
Reading the post, I think you were more defensive than people were judgmental. Castor oil is like #1 on the list of controversial mom app topics so naturally you’ll get passionate responses.
Didn’t know clearly. I wouldn’t have said anything. I’ve never heard of castor oil being dangerous. Every woman that’s taken it recommends it. There are women here literally assuming things about her and they don’t even know her. Of course I’m going to defend her. I’ve never said anyone was wrong I’m not asking for any facts to be sugar coated. I’m talking about the women that are literally calling her careless and selfish.
@chasinghappiness, you’re right about that. It’s not fair to assume she’s selfish if she didn’t know but it is a little careless to not consult your doctor before trying to induce labor. That’s not a little thing! Careless doesn’t equal bad mother though because we all make mistakes. Hopefully the info everyone has shared can prompt y’all to research it on your own if you’re still not convinced and then you can be the next link in the information chain, warning the next woman who may not know because it takes a village... from conception.
@olivbee, oh no with the first comment we got about it being dangerous she looked into it more since last night. It’s just that no one has ever told us the dangers. I’m on my 3rd pregnancy and I’m just learning the dangers. She thought it was as simple as the other ways to induce. Clearly we and other women were wrong and it sucks that she already took some.
People are passionate about innocent children being put in harms way. She didn’t know what could happen, but she truly should have asked a medical professional about it and not just simply listened to stories of women she knows. I do hope that her baby comes into this world unharmed and safely. She’s just gotta hang in there, she’s almost at the finish line!
@chasinghappiness you’re welcome. Castor oil is always extremely controversial and a sensitive subject on mom apps, as it should be! It’s really dangerous for mom and for baby. She now knows for her next child!
@chasinghappiness, it’s okay that you didn’t. It’s good to seek out knowledge and advice on things!
Who said she was willing putting her baby in danger ?? I think people was just saying this could happen and why would she want to do that and it’s not worth it !! And at the end of the day hun you don’t have to explain anything to anyone you know her and now you also no the dangers of it to tell her ! Tell her what she’s doing is unsafe and give her other ways like just talking to her doctor about getting induced and turn off the comments on this post if you don’t want to deal with it anymore because you don’t have to answer to anyone we all said it was unsafe and offered another option and that’s it . Don’t let anyone get you down or tell you about your people’s babies
I wouldn’t be making it a big deal if people WERENT being judgmental. You haven’t read all of the comments. People are making assumptions that’s what my issue is. I’m not asking for anything to be sugar coated.
Emotions run high when the well being of a child is in question. It doesn’t make someone judge mental to be passionate about children.
I’m sorry but there’s no excuse for being judgmental. How’s someone (a mom in need of advise) supposed to feel comfortable going to other moms if everyone is going to judge her and make her feel like shit for making a MISTAKE? It’s not helping. I’m sure people can take a damn breath before being jerks.
@chasinghappiness, I didn’t say there was a good excuse to be judgmental. I didn’t see the op, but I know from experience that these women, myself included have very strong feelings about castor oil.
@nap.queen, i know you didn’t say that I was making a statement. Just like you are able to tell me that you have strong feelings about the topic the others are capable too. That’s all I’m saying. Since last night I understand why people would be passionate about it. It’s dangerous. I’ve learned, my sisters-in-law has learned. All that BEFORE people started being judgmental 🤷🏾♀️ js
I don’t think people are being judgmental just want to inform you so you can inform her that Castrol oil is dangerous to the baby !! I’ve myself heard about people using that and they’re babies dying !!! It’s not worth it she can do other things to induce labor and if she’s really over being pregnant she should talk to her doctor and see if they can just go ahead and induce her but doing that oil shit is not worth it she wouldn’t want to deliver a stillborn !!
Assuming that she doesn’t know what pregnancy is and that she’s putting her baby in danger willingly, and that’s she’s being selfish is being judgmental 😑 and that is what women here are doing. I didn’t say sugar coat anything but also don’t assume anything about someone you don’t even know.
No one is judging if it means putting a baby life at risk. We are moms who don't want nothing bad to happen to other babies. I care about the lives of kids idk because i'm a mom. When its dangerous its important to say it is and it's not something you can support when we know the dangers or know that it is dangerous. You cant support something dangerous.
Assuming that she doesn’t know what pregnancy is and that she’s putting her baby in danger willingly, and that’s she’s being selfish is being judgmental 😑 and that is what women here are doing. I didn’t say sugar coat anything but also don’t assume anything about someone you don’t even know.
@chasinghappiness is just touchy so you fly off the handle. Im sorry shes probably a great person. I hope her baby comes soon and healthy. Tell her to try natural things. Dancing, squats sex walking .
I agree, I've heard some really disgusting stories of momma's wanting their babies out so much, well its the ugly truth, but it has to be told. So in the nicest way possible, castor oil is deadly to unborn babies, plain and simple
In no way am I judging but castor oil is 100% NOT safe. My friend lost her baby this way. It not only is an effective way to cause diarrhea in you but it can and will cause a bowel movement in baby while in utero which in turn the babies inhale and it kills them. If you want the baby out that bad then tell your doctor you want to be induced because you don’t want to risk being that far overdue. Most ob’s don’t let you go past 41 weeks anymore either. Castor oil is a killer. If you don’t trust anyone on here, trust your doctors. They will never ever recommend that.
The problem was that we have women that we asked that had taken castor oil and they made it seem safe or don’t even know the dangers themselves. Before taking it she didn’t know it could kill her baby. I’ve never even heard of castor oil being unsafe because so many women recommend it.
@chasinghappiness, that’s because some woman have induced labor with it and it used to be recommended until more studies were done on the effects of it. Kind of like when medicine gets recalled for defects and health risks so it’s not safe anymore. Woman that think it worked for them recommend it and most of the time don’t know the extent of danger they’re putting others in because whereas they have a success story doesn’t mean anything when they could be causing a loss for someone else saying it’s okay. My sons Mom also gave him orange juice at 3 weeks for constipation and baby cereal at 3 months for diarrhea without my consent. He know has so many stomach lining issues as well as dairy allergy which are all linked to open gut. There’s many ways to try and induce but nothing will work if baby isn’t ready. Semen is a good way to soften up that cervix and cause a bit of dilation. Walking afterwards helps a lot too. I was 5 cm dilated and super effaced at 35 weeks and our son still went past 39 weeks.
Support comes in all shapes and sizes. Support is not all rainbows and unicorns and agreeing- that is a farce. True support is telling the truth, telling you what you need to hear not what you want to hear.
Having said that: if shitting your brains out while delivering, risking dehydration, your health and your child’s health is worth the risk- go for it! Your doctors would induce you if medically necessary. Due dates are an estimation not an expiration and we all sign up knowing it’s for 40 weeks. So yes, some will judge if a mom is willing to put their baby in danger.
@laniejay, i can’t advise her on something I’ve never used. You’re assuming shit. You don’t know me or her or what we’ve done but you still assuming and judging from what YOU assume is happening here. Makes no sense. And I’m defending her because she’s not here to do it herself.
@chasinghappiness, I never assumed anything, I asked you a question. I also never judged. You’re going hard for no reason. Reading is fundamental, I feel as if you’re missing what I’m saying as it’s more meaningful for you to put up a defense than to be open minded.
I’m almost certain no one was being judgmental. You asked for advice you received it. I’m sorry that someone you know was willing to risk their child’s life because they want to give birth. I’m NOT sorry that the women on this app informed you of the dangers of castor oil.
I’m sure she wouldn’t have done it if she knew it would put her child at risk. We have 5 women all who have induced with castor oil and have came back fine and healthy with their babies. All I’m saying is there’s a way to go about educating someone without being bitchy 🤷🏾♀️ I’m not upset I’m not trying to argue, I’m not saying anyone’s wrong for what their saying it’s how it’s being said. There’s no way I should feel attacked or belittled by asking a question. Lol it’s not even about the castor oil anymore. I educated myself on all that.
@chasinghappiness, I’m sorry that no one sugar coated their advice to your standards.
@jhalsted1995, wow I literally said multiple times that I didn’t ask for any facts to be sugar coated. I asked that no one be judgmental and assume shit. That’s all. Is that too much?
Because people don't agree with castor oil? When you get pregnant you are signing yourself up for the chance of going to 42 weeks. I can't believe people still take castor oil.
People still take it because it works. I guess that’s the problem. And it’s perfectly fine to not agree with something. But you can do so WITHOUT being judgmental. Of course educate me, tell me your experience that’s what I’m asking for.
@chasinghappiness it can kill babies. Is having a dead baby worth no longer being in pain?
Support comes in all shapes and sizes. Support is not all rainbows and unicorns and agreeing- that is a farce. True support is telling the truth, telling you what you need to hear not what you want to hear.
Having said that: if shitting your brains out while delivering, risking dehydration, your health and your child’s health is worth the risk- go for it! Your doctors would induce you if medically necessary. Due dates are an estimation not an expiration and we all sign up knowing it’s for 40 weeks. So yes, some will judge if a mom is willing to put their baby in danger.