i just need to vent for a moment.. so over the summer my boyfriend’s sister & her boyfriend stayed with us (long overdue what she told us she would) and i didn’t mind it at first until she came close to her due date and i KNEW she wouldn’t leave, she didn’t pay any bills, & we had stuff come up missing.. she left about a week before she gave birth so that was that. now his OTHER sister is moving back from out of state with her THREE kids and wants to stay in our 2 bedroom 1 bathroom house. that’s 3 adults and 5 kids in my house. 8 people in a 2 bedroom 1 bathroom house. how is that even possible?!? & i know my boyfriend wants to help her out but i can’t. i just got my house back to myself. is that selfish of me?
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Not at all that’s your home as well your man should respect your wishes because if the shoe was on the other foot he probably wouldn’t like your brothers being there (if you have any)
The way he can help is by looking for an apartment for her. Just saying 🤷🏻♀️
@kartersmommyy, hope it all works out in your favor girl!
I have the same issue with in laws too. If you need to talk to can message me.
Definitely not selfish, that is way too mqny people for a 2 bedroom house. You all need your space.
No way. I need my space . I don't even like one extra person living here and we have a 4 bedroom🤦♀️🤦♀️
it’s crowded with who we have with a 2 bedroom! we have so much crap. we’re moving in 4 months to a 3 bedroom, i can’t take this little space anymore lol
You rent? If so, Not worth being evicted for. It will say so in the fine printed lease you singed. It’s a law. That’s a pretty easy way out! Can’t change the law or your lease 🤷🏻♀️
that’s what i’m thinking 🤔 what sucks is they don’t care, they just want a free place to stay 🤷🏼♀️ i’m not doing it!!
No it’s not selfish. It’s your house and just finally got it back. I wouldn’t want people staying either. And it will definitely be overwhelming with no room.
I don't think it's selfish. I think you and your family need your space in your house to do your own thing not worry about everyone else. My parents have my brother his wife and their 3 kids 2 under 2 and when I go over there to see them it's a mad house.
i can barely even run my house w/ 4 ppl in it right now lol
That is in no way selfish! We have three bedroom and two baths, and even then I wouldn't want 8 people at one time. For a weekend visit it would be tolerable, but I'm guessing she wants to have the same kind of deal his other sister had. My first thought is to offer a compromise and let her stay for a week to get everything settled, but there's no guarantee she'll leave at the end of that week.
You are not selfish, especially with the way his other sister took advantage of you.
i would offer a temp time but i know she’ll keep extending it like her sister.. i don’t wanna take that chance. they’ll end up running me out of my own house.
Absolutely not. Every person in my fiancé’s immediate family has lived with us at one point now because they are too unstable. His dad, mom, both brothers and sister. It’s EXTREMELY annoying.
i couldn’t stand the end of when his sister was living with us. i was annoyed to the max lol
I had 7 people in my 2b2b apartment last week for 5 days. It was SO crowded. My mom and dad slept in the boys room on my oldest's bed and a futon, my brother slept on the couch, my oldest son slept with us, and there were three dogs too. I couldn't live like that, I felt crowded and out of my element all weekend.
We had eight people in a four bedroom house I can’t imagine having eight in a two bedroom. You’re not being selfish at all.
i didn’t think so.. i feel bad but it’s not even doable!
It’s not selfish at all.. that’s way to many people in one house.
Pretty sure it’s two bodies per bedroom. That’s way over occupancy and someone could call child services on you n that’s all you need to say really it’s IL state law
I was just thinking that. My apartment complex has that rule!
@dope.ass.mom, it’s state law in most states it’s to stop people from making opposite sex from sharing bedrooms I believe by the age of 8 boys and girls aren’t suppose to share bedrooms
yeah i was thinking there was something like that. they don’t care about stuff like that tho there’s like 12 ppl living at their grandmas house 🙄
Hell na! That’s way to many, where they all gonna sleep? Nope. I love my privacy. That would just give me anxiety lol.
exactly there’s not even enough sleep space idk how that would even work & im not having ppl sleep all over my living room floor especially when i wake up at 5am every morning smh
@kartersmommyy, smh if he really wants to help he should help them look somewhere else (not tryna sound bitchy) cause that’s a little ridiculous.
No it's not, there's just not enough room in there . It's like way too many. My boyfriends cousins live like that 😳
idk how ppl can live like that, i need my space lol
No I don't think its selfish, you don't have enough space for everyone and it would be difficult. I wouldn't want to have that many people around either in such a small place
there’s not even enough sleeping space. plus instead of cleaning up after 2 kids i’ll be cleaning up after 5. that’s a larger amount of dishes, laundry, etc.. our electric bill will be high again & our water bill. i just don’t even see how it’s possible.
@kartersmommyy then it's not and your husband should understand if you just talk to him and explain it.
@ladyblauvelt, i am.. it just sucks bc i know he wants to help them but i know how it’s going to be.
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