I used to be able to talk to my sister about anything with out being judged. She used to be a great person to come to with my problems n she give great advice. But since she been unhappy in her marriage she has changed. I used to come to her n vent n vise versa n i comfort her n she would comfort me. But now she became very judgemental. I stopped talking to her for a long time n recently we talk it's the same thing. Usually i brush what she say off n it don't get to me. My hubby told me to put some distance between us bc she was disrupting our marriage bc she putting negative things in my ear which its m y fault for listening to her negtive advice. Last night me n my sister got into an arguement but she telling what we do in my home it's not normal n its a red flag that my marriage is in trouble. But we have Always done it n i dont have an issue with it. She picked on me about a FB post i posted about how caring my hubby is when i was sick she said why are u praising him when that suppose to be the basic... I came from 2 very toxic relationship n what may be basic seems to be the world to me bc i NEVER had a healthy relationship. N only had 2 b4 my hubby. So instead of her being happy for me she smashes things that is good for me when it comes to my marriage. I'm just heart broken bc we have always been so close since birth. I'm just working thru the change n i feel like I'm kinda alone like i lost my sister. 😭😭😭
Have you expressed how you feel to her? Sometimes hearing it flat out helps the situation. If she is willing to hear what you have to say than cool, but just brushing off the feelings are hurting you not helping. And I agree with the comment above give praise where praise is due! Just bc it seems small to her, like you said, is major to you and that's okay!! Maybe if she got praised for the small things she wouldn't be so bitter! Sometimes we have to put ppl @ arms length till God brings them back in your life. Even family goes thru seasons of rotation. You cannot entertain toxic relationships, even with family, bc as your hubs said it effects what you got going on. Pray for her, talk to her, and if no change keep backing away. Blessings to you!
Misery loves company. She’s just unhappy, and dragging everyone down with her