So I’m not a fan of my fiancé’s family. I want you all opinion on what you would do. His family wants to throw me a baby shower. Yet they haven’t invited any of my family and friends and none of my fiancé’s friends. My fiancé and his niece haven’t spoke since May since I got into an argument with her and supposedly this baby shower is her idea. Would you go to a baby shower that no one you know or friends and family won’t be apart of? Would you just not show up? My fiancé has already voiced his concerns and they were ignored. I’m thinking about not even going.
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My mother in law threw me a shower for my last daughter and only invited her friends... I didn’t know a single person there and I felt really awkward and uncomfortable. Wish I didn’t go. Only reason I went was for my husband.
I have decided not to go because that is exactly how I will feel. Nobody should feel that way at their baby shower. My fiancé doesn’t even want to go. So I refuse to even put myself through any of this at this point. I’m sorry you had to go through that! 😔
I don’t get along with my boyfriends side either lol so I feel you. I’d say you should bring the situation up to someone in your family and maybe someone on your side will choose to throw you a shower. If not though I recommend just going to the shower and once you do have your baby host a sip and see. Where your friends and family come see your baby, bring gifts and sip on wine or any preferred beverage. Don’t invite them! And if they ask I’d just say well I wanted to do something for my family and friends since none of them were invited to the baby shower.
I thought about this idea. This will only cause more problems I was told. I really don’t want to feel uncomfortable at my own “baby shower”.
@keshajay88, Who in there right mind would throw a shower for someone and not invite all of their friends and family? That’s crazy
Sorry, I hate my own in-laws and they don’t fuck with me anymore 😂🥶🥶
Thank you!!! Girl, I can’t stand them and they are very passive aggressive and nobody got time. F’em and that’s that for me!!!
Remember , you’re not a fucking incubator. You’re that child’s mother and you demand respect if they want to be apart of the baby’s life.
To me , I see this as a way to bully and manipulate you in any way. This is a control test...With no family there to protect you from whatever tricks they have up their sleeves, you need to make sure your spine is nice and shiny.
1) who are they to tell YOU that this is THEEE baby shower ?
2) who are they to not invite your family?
Do they think your family will not be apart of that babies life?
3) a baby shower is to celebrate the coming of a new BABY. So both sides should be able to attend.
4) girl, put your big girl panties on because if this is hard for you now, and if this is how entitled they are now....just wait til that baby comes and the REAL control , manipulation, gaslighting, and drama starts.
Remember , “no” is a complete sentence and this is YOUR baby. YOUR experience. Don’t everrrrr be afraid to hurt feelings because it’s obvious that they don’t give a shit about yours.
In addition to my above comment I'll just say that I got reamed out for not inviting certain people to the shower, also for not sending baby announcements to people I didn't even know (we didn't even mail announcements other than our Christmas mailing), AND for not inviting enough family to the baptism. So when I learned that his family REALLY cares about the First birthday, I said fine - we'll have a big party and invite lots of extended family. And... very few from his side showed up.
So the moral of my story is - you do what you and your fiance want. Eff everyone else and their demands. Do what is best and meaningful for your little family. Because none of it is about anyone else - is about you, your fiance, and your baby. And people can get over themselves.
Rant over.
You can always do an other one for your self and with the people you want there. And post all those pics smiles and all!! Lol
Send out your own invites it's your day not theirs
I would call them out on it. You should have a say on who goes to YOUR baby shower. That's crazy.
@keshajay88 eh, I'm an ass and wouldn't show up. Obviously it isn't for you.
@bodybycheetos, I agree with you!!! They are the type to do shit for social media points.
@keshajay88 I agree with @bodybycheetos I wouldn't show up, oh well. Lol
Maybe since his family is just hosting for their side someone on your side can host one for you? Regardless of beef you have with the family everyone loves a baby and shiieeeet, that’s more gifts! Do a diaper/wipes raffle. Will def help you and the baby.
@keshajay88, well shiiiiit she better bring gifts twice 😂😂
@keshajay88 So... they refuse to invite the people you want at YOUR shower, and will get mad if you throw a second one without them?
Yikes.
For me, it depends if I (and my fiance) want to try to salvage a relationship with his family. If so, go to their shower. But then also have one with your family and friends. Whether or not you invite his family (immediate family only - I wouldn't extend the invite further than absolutely necessary) to the second one is totally up to how nice you want to be (me, I'm a B and probably wouldn't - to make a point... but it's not exactly the high road lol).
@leowifey, my fiancé doesn’t want to go either. He’s upset they haven’t even invited his friends. I was going to try and go to keep the peace but now I’m in an F that mode. I told my fiancé that he could/should go since it’s for him and from his family. He doesn’t want to do that without me there.
To me , I see this as a way to bully and manipulate you in any way. This is a control test...With no family there to protect you from whatever tricks they have up their sleeves, you need to make sure your spine is nice and shiny.
1) who are they to tell YOU that this is THEEE baby shower ?
2) who are they to not invite your family?
Do they think your family will not be apart of that babies life?
3) a baby shower is to celebrate the coming of a new BABY. So both sides should be able to attend.
4) girl, put your big girl panties on because if this is hard for you now, and if this is how entitled they are now....just wait til that baby comes and the REAL control , manipulation, gaslighting, and drama starts.
Remember , “no” is a complete sentence and this is YOUR baby. YOUR experience. Don’t everrrrr be afraid to hurt feelings because it’s obvious that they don’t give a shit about yours.