Where are you on the spanking debate? It is a parent's choice, some kids are so strong willed they don't respond to anything but a whack on the tush, but I have seen many adults take it too far as well.
This post about to open a big ole can worms lol. But im agaisnt spanking but my dh isnt so we clash when it comes to disciplining, he thinks u have to enstill fear so that they will listen and do as you say. I say talk to the kids and take some things away and they'll do it. Its hard sometimes becasue I will call their name and they wont answer but if their dad does then they answer and do it quickly. So my husband doesnt think my kids respect me.
I spank my kid when he does things wrong or things he shouldn't do when he does them on purpose for a response, and before anyone says anything YES he does actually do them ON PURPOSE... He knows better most the time but chooses to do as he pleases anyway. He'll climb on things just to get things he's not supposed to have and then runs to me and puts it in my face and says "haha", to me that's just disrespectful and I don't let him get away with it.
Your two year old sounds exactly like mine’ he gets spankings when he does stuff like that!! He responds to nothing but a whack on the butt and then he will go sit down for 5 minutes and come back and say sorry 🤷🏼♀️ so obviously it works! I was spanked as a kid and turned out fine lol
so was I, I didn't turn out bad, my mom even pulled my hair sometimes
I will never physically abuse my child. I was physically abused growing up by multiple people. From belts, to brooms, kneeling on sea salt, dunked my head cold water, dragged by my hair, ear etc. . Ive had marks that went from my legs to my thighs and bruises on my back and arms. Ive always promised myself that i will never do such thing.
I am for spanking kids with moderation. I grew up getting spanked when I deserved it and I grew up to be a respectful, decent woman. I am happy my parents spanked with moderation. I spank my son when he is openly no listening to me but I usually talk to him before I ever spank him.
All who support spanking, thinking your babies are being malicious and intentional should read up on childhood development and read the studies on the detriments of spankings. Call it a pat, pop, tap, whatever the hell cutsey name you want- you’re spanking your kids and causing long term harm. Spanking is a lazy way of parenting. Educate yourselves and do right by your babies.
@caiticat., I had to update apparently I didn’t know there were reply features
I can’t see reply’s ether 🤔 I already updated the app, it cuts off after one sentence 😒
My parents were very physically abusive. I hated and feared them. I dont spank bc I dont think its effective. So thinks its fine to spank. I see this being an issue in our future. Personally I think there are better ways to enforce rules than physical punishment.
My very first memory is being backhanded by my bio dad. I was in at least kindergarten or 1st grade and the bus was late getting home. He used to use belts, his hands, anything he could get his hands on for little things. It didn't make me respect him or act any better (since I wasn't doing anything wrong in the first place most times). Actually it did the opposite, I had no respect for him and I flinch or completely jump out of the way when people move too fast around me to this day.
Calling it a pop, pat, pow pow, or any other name is dumb. Don't try making it cute, you're still *hitting* your kid.
There are so many different ways to keep the rules in place. If you are hitting your kids and can't get yourself in control of your own anger or figure out how to handle your kids, you are just a shabby parent. Especially if your kid is not even old enough to know they did something wrong and don't understand why mom/dad is angry and hitting them.
Spanking is for the parents not the child. It doesn't help the child. Parents do it and it is a way to release their anger or aggravation on their child. I am 100% against it. And others are right I have a master's in child development and there is SO much research explaining why it's not helpful for your child!
When i was young my dad would spank me. I was so scared of him so we didn't have a good relationship. He never even did it much but i remember those times and those shouldn't be the kind of memories I have of my dad. My mom would do it every now and again but i wasn't scared of her when i was in trouble id go to her first. I didn't like her for awhile because she hit me real hard in the back of the head and i did hit her back. I got in trouble in school for hitting other kids. As a mom i just decided to not let that anger come to me. Not a very good upbringing. My step daughter was hit in the face by her mom among other things why she lives with us. Wants nothing to do with her.
I don’t hit my child to discipline her and I never will. Hitting my child says I don’t know how to control my emotions and my temper. Hitting my child says I feel like I have to instill fear in her for her to respect me and behave. Hitting my child says that I’m messing up somewhere as a parent and I need to figure it out. The same parents that spank/whoop their children are the same ones that are in shock when their kids hit them back or when their kids get in trouble at school for hitting, then they turn around and hit them again for said hitting. It doesn’t make sense. I simply cannot teach my child that it isn’t okay to hit others (unless it is out of self defense) by turning around and hitting her in the name of discipline and punishment. I want her to trust me, not fear me.
When I told someone they need education and help in teaching their children, my comment was liked but then deleted... but the dirty delete was denied 🤷🏼♀️
honestly I missed it. I have no clue what she said I just asked her if she was ok because she left our formula chat and she said she was deleting her account I seen her post saying she was a bad mom to everyone and I seen someone say she belted her kids but I didn’t see what she actually said about belting her children.
@michellemybell09, openly admitted to using a belt on all her kids and defended herself as if there was no problem with that.
@laniejay I am getting comments popping up as notifications but not actually there on the post. The app has been bugging since last night and I think it's from that.
it worked! Thank you. It's been driving me crazy. I normally have auto updates but accidentally had my Wi-Fi off. Oops. Lol
I honestly don’t believe in spanking as discipline no matter how bad your child is, I really don’t see what it is teaching them to hit? To fear you? My parents never spanked me or my siblings. And I will never hit my son or my daughter. you don’t have to hit your child to make them understand what they are doing is wrong! Try communication my son is well behaved and has never been hit.
It’s not really a debate anymore. 🤷🏼♀️ If the leading medical experts are saying that hitting children is damaging then there’s no room for debate. That’s like saying, “What do you think about the smoking causes cancer debate?” The research is clear.
I don’t spank my children. I was raised getting spanked and it didn’t help. We reward for good behavior and take away for bad behavior. But I’m also not against spanking. If that’s your choice of punishment and it works for you, than that’s great. I just choose to not go that way.
I think hitting a child is wrong 🤷🏻♀️ but I just worry about my own.
Lanie Jay·
All who support spanking, thinking your babies are being malicious and intentional should read up on childhood development and read the studies on the detriments of spankings. Call it a pat, pop, tap, whatever the hell cutsey name you want- you’re spanking your kids and causing long term harm. Spanking is a lazy way of parenting. Educate yourselves and do right by your babies.
Caiticat 🌸··
Exactly.
C.L. Antro··
This 💯
Queen Meeks·
I don’t hit my child to discipline her and I never will. Hitting my child says I don’t know how to control my emotions and my temper. Hitting my child says I feel like I have to instill fear in her for her to respect me and behave. Hitting my child says that I’m messing up somewhere as a parent and I need to figure it out. The same parents that spank/whoop their children are the same ones that are in shock when their kids hit them back or when their kids get in trouble at school for hitting, then they turn around and hit them again for said hitting. It doesn’t make sense. I simply cannot teach my child that it isn’t okay to hit others (unless it is out of self defense) by turning around and hitting her in the name of discipline and punishment. I want her to trust me, not fear me.