My husband and i work at the same place, have for a while, we decided to consecutively ask for thursdays off for date night and we ask my mother to watch our daughter. I even had a friend and co worker volunteer for date night babysitting who is also married and knows the need for you and him time. I think if you find the right people its really all about making sure you got baby covered and you just spend time together as a couple for a few hours 1 night a week and making sure the communication line is open and being fully open to his needs. Parenthood is just as hard on the male as it is on the female. Ask about his concerns, his needs and his wants. He might just want a nap. Today my husband was feeling under the weather so i took over little one duty so he could take a nap. I was also up since 6am. I told him id like a nap too and he took over little one duty before so i could catch a little shut eye myself.

You don’t lol it goes to shit especially if he doesn’t do anything to help you

I talked to my husband & I told him I want to do date nights, someone watch the kids & we just have the day to ourselves. Planning a day in NYC in November 😊

Communication & time to yourselves without the kids is good. I hate being away from my kids, but I know my husband & I need some alone time. Even if it's just once a month. I just leave them with someone I trust (my parents, my sister etc...)

** we still have our arguments but he didn’t want to hear my venting but this app and real life friends who are also moms understand and get it. Men just simply don’t sometimes and that’s ok in the end.

Lots of communication and lots of understanding.

Everyone is tired and without sleep it’s just lots of arguing over being tired and then who got more sleep or who’s turn it is for this and that. I found that talking to other moms about it was Better than telling my husband because it can across as nagging. So when he would ask how I am instead of saying I’m so tired.. I’d say oh I’m good! Baby did this or that how are you? It helped SO much and changed everything.

It takes time to settle into a new routine. I was never so happy yet sleep deprived and tired. I can remember my husband telling me that it is okay to just be angry without being angry with him. It was some of the best advice I've ever gotten. It is an amazing time, but trying! I had to completely adjust to this tiny person who needed a lot from me, and I was happy to give it, but stretched thin when it came to my husband and my patience.

I won't lie my relationship is shit now, it's nothing to do with the baby though it's to do with him being a lazy shit that won't help me and just sleeps all the time.. I guess you just have to communicate and make time for eachother aswell as the baby, just because my relationship is bullshit doesn't mean that's how it is for everyone after they have a baby so don't worry just try and keep a level of communication like I said and you should be fine