@surprisedmama, not wrong I do the same I’ve fallen way back from him and his kids only concern is my 3

Is that not mental/emotional abuse?? I think so! Abuse in any form shouldn’t be tolerated!

@surprisedmama, that’s so wrong I hate that you’re going thru that.

That's not right at all @surprisedmama.
My OH had 5 children when we met and we have 1 together.. If you accepted he had children then he has no right to pick and choose how and when you're involved..
My OH middle child has recently came to live with us, at times it's testing and I stress about his behaviour/lack of helping but I always address it with my OH, at times if were rowing he tells me not to bother doing anything with his son but not in the sense that he doesn't want me around him. Just that if I'm stressing about doing stuff for him then stop doing it sort of thing x

@mbelton, yes. he told me this morning his mom and children were staying over for the day and i didn’t respond. he thought i had something against his kids. um no, he brings them around when it’s convenient for him, like the birth of the baby or a holiday, or something like that. but on an average day, he don’t bring them around or include them and i try to all the time. i’m just tired of the whole situation. our kids can bond, but i’m removing myself

@garay88, to me that’s the safest thing to do. i don’t wanna be attached to someone else children and when they feel like they don’t wanna bring them around or or do separate activities without me because they don’t want to include me, im left confused. i rather distance myself

@laniejay, yes it’s bothersome, like i accepted his kids way before we even had children together. and they are old enough to know what’s going on 12 and 13, so when they come around me i’m uncomfortable

Why in the world would he do that? Bc the second you step away you’re in the wrong..

Umm what?!? Huge red flag right there.