Mommas, did it hurt to have sex the first time postpartum? After the first child?
I keep telling hubby we can try and then it ends up not happening because I tell him I’m afraid it’s still gonna hurt.
It’s making me feel like a bad wife, but it’s supposed to be good for both of us not just one of us, right? 🙇🏼♀️🙇🏼♀️🙇🏼♀️
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For me it still feels weird. That and I don't feel attractive plus the 2 little ones don't ever leave our side which makes it hard. We try to wait till the night but end up falling asleep🤷 it's just not any fun right now so I'm hoping he's patient enough to just wait a few more months
In my experience it only hurt at the beginning as he went in and then it felt like the best sex ever !! It was at 7 weeks pp !!
I was tender first time having sex pp both times. Even though i had 2 csections. You just gotta relax and let your body release tension.
@kambam, very true, lol I guess this makes me think twice about trying. Thank you mommas!
And I figured a beer or 2 wouldn’t hurt, i just didn’t want to be the “bad mom” that can’t wait to drink. Lol
To be fair, penises are made for vaginas moreso than fingers 😆 but I think you need to be comfortable. Not everyone is done healing by 6w, 8w, or even 10w etc. Plus with hormone fluctuation it can be hard to get in the mood for sex. Btw, its safe to drink and nurse.
@mortonmining, I did not breastfeed so I honestly don’t know how that would affect baby
@kambam, I keep telling him that! Lol. I need a week or 2 more and he gets all sad and angry! I told him if I can’t stick my fingers there without it hurting how is your man parts gonna be any better?! Lol
@mombie., did you drink and breastfeed? I considered it but my LO is still so young, I don’t want it to affect him. But I’d totally relax a lil more after a beer or 2! 🍻
Wasn't for me. I waited way longer tho. Theres other things you can do like oral or just hand stimulation with each other. If it leads to sex then cool. It should be natural, not forced. Foreplay is must. Mama needs a massage!
@mortonmining, i agree with the lube lube up it helps honestly after the first try I was terrified we didn’t even finish.. the second time I think I had a few drinks to relax and it helps but that was just me lol
The first 2 times?! ☹️
Great 🙇🏼♀️ lol. I was hoping magically it would feel good the first time! Lol.... and I hate condoms! They always seem to make things worse! But hubby keeps wanting to use them so we don’t have another baby to soon..
and same with lube, hate it.... lol I have like no desire for sex it’s crazy! Poor husband. Lol.
Thanks for the advice ladies, I thought I was crazy because 👇 still hurts a little.
@mombie., @valerie_jean, @jacobsmom2018,
Try! Be cautious, take it slow, and lube even if you don’t need it! You’ll never know if you don’t try and both of you are now suffering😂
We waited 8 weeks after the first and it was very uncomfortable for me the first two times just go slow and easy and don’t rush anything is my best advice for you.
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My mom made it sound like she was gonna be in the delivery room when I give birth, and quite frankly, I would just like it to be me and my fiancé. It's our first, and I want to share that special moment with just him. I don't want to hurt her feelings, and I know this is something she would really like to be a part of. So I feel bad telling her no.
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@kneri83, that’s how it is for us as well, the one night I was kinda ready to try hubby fell asleep like an hour before Melo did. Lol. 🤷🏼♀️ oh well I guess, 😅