Ryan is going through some serious gender disappointment. I understand and am giving him the space…

It’s ok to be disappointed. But he shouldn’t be upset that your taking it better then he is. I’m sure he’ll come around sooon

@jellybeans33, that’s why I’ve been trying not to bring it up. Cause he gets snappy if I say that I’ve gotten over it. I think it upsets him that he can’t get over it.

I hope he does come around, we can’t pick a name because he doesn’t want to pick girl names.

You should really talk to him and have him understand that he can't be upset with you or make it seem like a blame game. His little swimmers are the ones that determine if it will be a girl or boy not your egg but either way a healthy/happy baby should be the goal. Guys have different ways of bonding with their daughters but that doesn't mean they can't play sports or something together. I guess to put it not simple it's another miracle you guys created and it has both your DNA and should be treated fairly and lovingly. The gender disappointment takes some time but it shouldn't be forever.

Well his sperm is what chooses the sex is women have no control over that part lol

@jaygirlsmommy, I think it’ll be a lot like when we had our first. He didn’t seem interested or bonded with her until she was born.

@wolfnurturer, he didn’t bond with our first until she was born. But as soon as he saw her she was everything to him.

He said he’s upset mostly with himself because it is him who decides gender.

I’ve told him that I understand where he’s coming from and I just hope he can make it through this.

@santistevanmommie I see. It just takes time. Do you guys have a name picked out? Are you further along where he can feel kicks?

@wolfnurturer, we’ve been looking at names. And have about 3-4 contenders. I’m really hoping that maybe we can find a name that he loves so much it won’t matter to him anymore. No kicks on the outside but soon. I’ve been feeling her kick for a few weeks and I’m 20wks now.

@santistevanmommie yeah once you guys get a name or you start feeling the kicks on the outside, try to include him on that and having him say her name. It definitely makes it more real and sweet early bonding.

Although my husband recovered from his disappointment fairly quickly but I really don’t think he got past it until he saw her. Now he is so thankful for having a baby girl and feels her needed her first.

@masseymomma16, see that’s how he was with our first as well. He never seemed that interested or bonded with her as I did, but the moment he heard her cry and saw her face it was a wrap. He was so far in love with her there was no bringing him back.

I feel as though it’ll be the same with this one as well.

I had extreme gender disappointment both second and 3rd baby but once they were here everything changed I no longer was mad etc. It took me a very long time. I suggest that next time you guys have a baby just not finding out , I mentally prepared and actually wanted a girl this time 😂 but finally got my boy so I found out but if i was still strictly boy I probably wouldn’t have wanted to know at all.

@alyboo102293, if we go for a 3rd we definitely won’t be finding out. I told him it’ll be better that way because we will be so caught up with the baby already here it won’t matter what it is.