Has anyone had a rough patch in their relationship and stuck it out for the kids? Did it end up…

so basically i caught him talking to other girls twice when i was pregnant with our daughter. he stole money from me without talking to me and he’s just a liar. i told myself to wait until she was born to see how things would go. he complains about her crying and barley pays me attention. constantly on his phone (which i’m always nervous he’s talking to girls on again), doesn’t tell me when he’s going to bed just leaves, and never shows any affection. i’ve talked to him about this numerous times

@lcost, I’m sorry you are going through that with your husband. I never recommend sticking around only for the kids . That can never be healthy and it only causes you to become more resentful and angry at the person . If you have had numerous conversations with him and he still hasn’t changed or it doesn’t even seem like he is trying then I would say it’s best to either try marriage or couples counseling , separate for a little while to see what you guys want to do , or just end everything without trying . The choice is yours . You know your husband, your relationship and your heart and if it’s worth fighting for then fight just make sure you aren’t the only one fighting . He has to fight as well. I hope it works out for you both hun . If you need anyone to talk to I’m here for you and help your head up .

I'm sorry hun but he doesn't want the relationship... that's the truth. It sounds to me he doesn't really love you and doesn't want to be with you but feels obligated. You need to let him go. I got pregnant by my 2yr olds father after being together 6 months... I knew his true colors by then and had planned to leave before I found out about the baby. I thought staying with him was the right thing to do but staying with someone just for the kids does more harm than good. I stayed with him and dealt with his abuse until our son was a year old, I thought he would change by then and I thought things would get better but they never did, it only got worse. The best thing to do was leave.

My husband and I met very young and had a lot of growing to do together. We did not have kids right away... But once we did, that’s when the hard times came. We’ve gotten through them and I’m so happy we did but it took a lot of patience and you have to want to work it out.

@lcost, after reading this, not sure its worth working it out because this seems like something you have no control over... if he isn’t interested in changing, he won’t. I’m sorry you’re going through this!

We've been trying but right now is a bad time. I dont think it works if it's just about the kids.

Now that my ex and I have split, I feel we may have been trying for the sake of the kids. He called off our wedding back in August was due to get married this December. Purchased our first home together last December. Expecting a new baby March 1st. To just be able to walk away from all of that and not feel any kind of way, he definitely was trying for the sake of the kids. When I decide to start dating again my standards will be so high and I will never settle again. If you see red flags do not stay for the sake of the kids. Sometimes that is worse and can cause damage on the kids as well.

@ericarae you are so right... The red flags 🎌 are so vital and should never be ignored

Been married for 6 years now and yes at times it's very Rocky and I do push myself to continue for the kids... Like my family would say, there are good seasons and than their are bad seasons.