Hypothetical question: if a woman is with an abusive narcissist, she may not realize at first, but once she does, is it…
Hypothetical question: if a woman is with an abusive narcissist, she may not realize at first, but once she does, is it now her fault for staying? Furthermore, if she leaves with the baby but then comes back for security, is it at that point, now her fault because she knowingly moved back in with an abusive narcissist, knowing the alternative would probably be more poverty and hardship?
Staces·
Мама дочки (1 год)
@cherokee it is me😕 there's a saying, we are our own worst critics, and I don't think I would be so hard on say, a friend or sister. But I still can help but feel utterly defeated, and stupid, and like maybe I deserve it for making bad decisions in the first place🤷♀️
sweetsap·
I wouldn't assign blame... but I'd say she's aware of the disconnect and "choose" to stay, I'd even use the word "choose" really loosely. So it's not her "fault" for staying, she doesn't deserve the abuse just because she stayed or returned.
She def needs to seek counseling, because there are some obvious issues there that she herself may not know exist. If a person feels secure in an abusive relationship, well, that just tell you where their mental state is.
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I would say no but she is putting her own life and her child's in danger by staying and/or returning but thats when she needs help the most
Mom Mom Mom Mom·
Мама двоих (2 года, 6 лет)
With domestic violence counselors they say when a victim leaves they are likely to return a couple times before coming back to a shelter/family member after the abuser has rejected them it's quite sad. Theres a term the used for it , almost explained like a Stockholm syndrome.They say they dont blame the victim cause they've been threw tons of mental abusive for it to get like that they usually need counseling for years.