Doing all laundry today so tomorrow on cleaning day I can just clean the house and be done . I be in too much pain to clean the house from top to bottom and do laundry all on Saturday so laundry it is today .
@verguinia, why you couldn’t you live by me lol ? I think we would have been great friends
@prestonjeanetta0120 amen me too he trully took my heart and loved me when I felt unloved and we also could not pay rent owed 2 rents this month and my boyfriend worked extra got extra work out of nowhere and we paid all 2 rents and on top of that the office gave us a new stove and fringe and yesterday we got a free closet for the baby God says if you believe and trust me and have hope and love me I got you and I'll bless you more anf give you abundance beyond your expectations ! And he did !!!!
@verguinia, your sooo right about that . It’s been times when I didn’t know where our next meal was going to come from or how I was going to pay all the rent or was I going to be able to keep my job and just stress after stress and I learned over the years to just leave it to god and do my best because all the times that I just knew it was over I’ve done all I can and it wasn’t enough something at the end changed and I was able to do what I thought I couldn’t !! He might not come every moment that I wish he could but I know for a fact he comes just in time and has never failed me !! So I’m always greatful and give him appreciation every chance I get !
@prestonjeanetta0120 your doing a great job your kids are learning to be considerate and responsible not many people that have 2 parents,cant do that!! I found my boyfriend when my daughter was 7 i was on my own before that only had my daughter and me living in a room with another family who's husband was constantly trying to hit on me without me having another place to live but God and going to chur h really helped me though everything you should pray God is,very powerful you won't even know how he managed to fix everything in the end but he does
@verguinia, no need to apologize there’s nothing wrong with you sharing something your going through . Everyone can use a listening ear and some encouraging words no matter what the topic started off as . And it’s good that your boyfriend is being so loving because your showing your girls what a family is supposed to look like !! I often feel bad because I can’t give my kids the family I want them to have due to my son father passing away when he was just 4 and now the only man that he grew to have a bond with is out here just fucking up and not being that role model anymore . My daughter is only 1 so she don’t know what’s going on and how things are supposed to be and my newborn won’t have a clue nor care in the world so it only affects my son . But I keep in mind that I have no control over the next person and all I can be is the best that i can be for them and that’s enough .
@prestonjeanetta0120 thank you wow I never thought of that !!! I can only move forward it hurts my heart alot especially when I feel like I need her help and hug but I know I need to be strong for my kids and boyfriend he says that he loves me so much and can't bare to see me depressed over my mom when I am . Sorry this is not about me just be blessed your mom loves you no one can replace a mother's love it's trully special !
@verguinia, I’m sorry that’s awful but your better off !! And with you reminding your mother of your father that could be a reason and also maybe she knows that she’s been a crappy mom to you over the years and she knows how good of a mother you are too your babies and maybe somewhere in there she could feel guilty and instead of talking and trying to fix things she rather stay away and act like it’s nothing ? Idk ! All I can say is keep doing what your doing and don’t let her lack of love and presence change you
@prestonjeanetta0120 yes as we grew up my mom was single worked a hard job me and her where best friends it's crazy how she just went from nurture to ghost with me she said I'm so stupid and always bullied me and threatened to physically hurt me so I left her house she smokes alot of ciggerates and was a domestic violence victim from my dad for years and she finally left him I look like him alot :( I remind her of him. I guess she just wants to forget him and I'm not helping she had to marry him because she was pregnant with me. She didn't want to marry him. I try not to act like her with my children I don't want to act like her with my little girls I really wish I don't because we all sometimes act like our parents without realizing :( I hope I don't:( both my parents,where bad so I'm basically on my own the only family I have have is my sis who only calls when she need something like money :( my mother gave my sis money for the baby when I was in the hospital after I gave birth but didn't come or say anything to me my sister said she showed her a pic of my baby and that was it
@verguinia, what omg that’s awful !! I couldn’t imagine life without my mom !!! That’s crazy that your mom treats you and your babies like that for no reason . How was she with you growing up ?? You may not ever get an answer to why she is the way she is and that sucks but just know that it’s her loss and not yours . Better off protecting yourself and your babies from someone who’s angry at the world and doesn’t care for them than to try and have her around just to bring bad energy. Let your mom be the example of how your not going to be with your babies at any age .
@prestonjeanetta0120 guys are ridiculous I hate how they still live the single life after they are not and need to provide he is being selfish because he knows your condition he should be more considerate towards you and knowing you have 2 other children who he really should be comming home to look after since it's hard for you with your high risk to be runing after your mom is awesome!!! Your so Blessed to have hee mine won't talk to me never met my baby and didn't even call to ask how I'm doing ever in 3 years she hates me and I don't even know what I did she didn't even tell me that ! She doesn't even talk to my 9 year old and she is always angry at the world especially me I'm her target
@verguinia, I’m by myself all day just me and my 1 yr old all day during the week day until dinner my son don’t get in from school until 5 . On weekends we spend the majority of the day at my moms so I can relax alil more . My SO isn’t around anymore I had to put him out 2 weeks ago I found out that he was doing crack 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ when he sold all our freezer food and the people in the neighborhood saw him to come and tell me . Talk about embarrassing !! He doesn’t want any help so he’s just out here doing him like he doesn’t have kids and a baby on the way . So my son and my mom is such a blessing cause they help so much . I just need to have this baby and recover from my c-section so I can move about how I want
@prestonjeanetta0120 buy the belly band and buy alot of tomato juice the iron in tomato juice is really high drink alot!!!!!
@prestonjeanetta0120 thank God for your mom!!!! 7 more weeks girl you can do it!!! Can you by any chance stay upstairs where the bathroom is! I really don't think you should do laundry or clean at all your getting bigger belly is growing stay laying down more that baby is a human life that is developing inside you it's more important then laundry can your husband help with it and the house and your mom? Be safe God is with you get your strength from God pray everyday real Ephesians 6:10 the whole armer of God!
@verguinia, she doesn’t want me taking any pain meds unless I really really have to because I have problems with my iron and since i been taking baby aspirin and Motrin for some reason my iron levels have went down even more and my blood work keeps coming back out of wack . I got doctors next week and she said if my recent labs still say that my iron is super low she’s sending me for an iron transfusion since meds don’t help . I have to buy a belly band or something to keep the pressure of my pelvic
@verguinia, my 1 yr old even picks up her own toys and what I ask her but it doesn’t matter how much help I have the pain is so intense that it causes more BH or real contractions I’m high risk pregnancy . My doctor just put me on maternity leave day before yesterday and put me on a no stairs restriction but that’s impossible with all bedrooms being upstairs and bathroom . So if I’m really in pain where it’s just really hurts to walk my mom comes over and helps since she’s only up the street
@prestonjeanetta0120 I'm sorry your always in pain is there any pain med that can help you? And your kid is awesome ! I wish more moms of boys teach them to take care of the house and help out then women won't be so tired alk the time !!!
@verguinia, he cleans his own room and cleans the living room and usually put the clothes in the basement for me . I wash my dishes in bleach with soap so I don’t allow him to do dishes . If he does that it allows me to straighten up what he can’t and just to sweep and mop . But i have pubis dysfunction so I’m always in extreme pain .
Ask your 9 year old to help my 8 yrs old helps me alot thank God for her she cleans her bed her closet folds her own clothes cleans her own dishes in the sink in so happy she does that because when she is older in life she is so used to it that she will have a clean house and clothes :) thank God for my big girl she even helps alot with the baby laundry because I'm stuck holding baby all day
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
I found out my bf smoked pot today and made him leave. He was 6 months clean. Idk what to do the house is so empty without him.
Rant: Dishes!
Does anyone else just HATE doing dishes? I would rather do any other chore over dishes. What household chore do you hate doing? P.s. I actually love vacuuming and folding clean warm laundry.
Are you a person who does laundry everyday or just on a certain day? Im so tired of doing laundry everyday just to fold everything a few weeks later 😭 I think I’m just going to pick a day & do it all then cause fuuck dis lol!!
Clean house vs playing with your kids
This is always a fun one. I often hear the excuse of "I would rather play with my kids then have a spotless house" as a reason for not having a clean house (and I don't mean clutter...I mean actually dirty). Personally I think that's a load of crap. I have quite a few kids who are disgusting pigs....but my house is always company ready and I don't spend all day cleaning in order to keep it looking nice and presentable. Granted I do have indentured servants...
@prestonjeanetta0120 yes me too! I could of came and helped you and our kids could of been Friends too!