I’m the worst ever! 😢 Iv been planning my best friend’s bachelorette party for a month now and it’s…
I’m the worst ever! 😢
Iv been planning my best friend’s bachelorette party for a month now and it’s 1920s themed. Paid $58 for my costume plus $28 for the shoes, so I’m pumped to go. I’m breastfeeding so I’m not gonna drink and I’m going to be 1 of the 2 DDs.
Well I was thinking today that it was silly to spend that much for a dress when no one will see it because my baby K-Tan carrier is going to cover it up. Then it dawned on me... I can’t bring Emilio. Duh of course not, but it didn’t click in my mind until today... the party is in 2 days and I had to tell my best friend that I can’t go. No way I’m leaving my son with anyone he’s not even 2 months old, AND I’m strictly breastfeeding no pumping or formula so I can leave him anyway.
I’m not upset at all because no way a party is more important than my sons well being but I can’t believe it never crossed my mind until today that I can’t bring Emilio.
We’re going to have a dinner before the “party time” so I can at least go to that. But she seems pretty upset with me.
The EK 💁🏼♀️·
Does she have kids? She may not understand now, but one day she will. You’re attending what you can & shouldn’t feel bad about that. Plus you planned the whole thing, it’s not like you’ve done nothing for the event. Don’t feel bad. Family first.
Kelley87·
Awe that sucks!! Your husband/ better half can't watch the baby? One of my dearest friends had her bachelorette party and I was about 2-3 weeks postpartum.. I pumped, left plenty of milk and I went for about two hours and came bk home. Daddy kept the girls for less than 3 hrs so everyone survived lol! My baby was 6 weeks at her wedding (7 hrs away) and my family traveled there too. I don't think your friend should be mad if you don't but I did it bc I knew that she would do it for me!
Olivia·
Мама троих детей
@ek620, she doesn’t have kids so I’m definitely understanding how she could be upset. But it’s just not something I’m comfortable with.
@kelley.blue, at 2months I’m still helicoptering over him. Even Dad hasn’t been alone with him. There’s no way I could leave him and not freak out the whole time. And I’m not pumping anymore just doing mouth to breast.
Kelley87·
@knockout, if you won't let dad keep him then clearly she knew you wouldn't be coming 😂😂😂. You are the real definition of MAMA BEAR hehehe!!
Olivia·
Мама троих детей
@kelley.blue, 😂😂😂 I can’t help it. My brain just automatically assumed Emilio was coming with me. No one even asked if I had got a sitter, and my husband didn’t ask either. Iv been going on and on about this event and planned the whole thing and not once did it cross my mind that I couldn’t bring my baby 😂😅
Kelley87·
Poor thing😂.. I was like that with my first baby.. The second one I turned into a "bad mom" lol! Girl I was at the bachelorette party a few weeks postpartum, had a drink, pumped n dumped and started bk nursing her the next morning 😔😔😔. I would've NEVER did that with my first lol! I'm so embarrassed lol!
Kelley87·
But she knows your heart and one day she'll better understand!
Olivia·
Мама троих детей
@kelley.blue, rofl I’m on my 3rd and have been the same for all of them. Maybe worse with this one. He’s my last due to medical issues.
Kelley87·
@knockout, I know I'm awful lol! But that's even more reason for you to want to spend every second that you can with him.