I'm getting frustrated. This girl, let's call her...Desiree, lost her child a few months back. The child I think was four or five and had passed away due to a virus the child caught while they were brought to Desirees husbands home in India. The husband decided to stay in India longer and sent Desiree back home to upkeep the house. Now, we've been friends since middle school with on and off communication. She's been very...interested in my pregnancy and often demands to see pictures of my belly and such, which I don't do because I'm not comfortable with showing anyone my body. She also constantly wants to call me on Facebook and gets silent when I don't answer. She usually calls at 12 at night, when my fiancè gets home, and I don't like spending my time on the phone with her because all she talks about is how everything has been going downhill for her. I don't want the stress of trying to handle her problems and trying to get things together for my daughter Iris who will be born in a month and two weeks. Am I being an ass or is this a normal response????
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@skyee.niicole4 I think it's frustrating for me because I've lost kids through miscarriage and I know it may not be the same of losing a child that's already been born but I can't handle her obessiveness with my pregnancy
I understand that she is grieving for her child but I also understand how you feel, id feel like same way in your position. This is a time in your life when you need to think about the welfare of you and your daughter so sometimes that means that you have to be less available to deal with other people's dramas if it's affecting your stress levels negatively. Don't feel bad for doing the best for your daughter, if she is going to ignore you for focusing on your own life then so be it x
this is a tough situation , I dont think your bein a ass but I think maybe your friend is havin some depression or obsession issues bec the loss of her child and you bein pregnant is probably making her envy you a little bec she wants that back I'm sure .. I'm sorry your going thru this and I'm sorry your friend lost her child that's so horrible .. if you feel that uncomfortable just tell her upfront that you dont mind bein there for her and updating her with your pregnancy (if you dont) but let her know that you dont like sending pics of your bump for safety reasons or just privacy reasons .. her talkin about everything going down hill can be very annoying I've been there but just try to be there as much as you can for her in this time and tell her she's the only one that can make her situation better and make herself feel better advise some therapy maybe or just tell her you got alot going on before baby comes and your not tryin to be rude but it's the truth lol , lord I know my response was long and I hope it helps you mama .. its hard to advise situations like these bec it's a hard situation but I wish you the best and no matter what dont let it stress you too much to where you cant enjoy the rest of your pregnancy 😊
@unapologetic_parenting I definitely understand and agree with you hun , are you wanting to be close with her and really reconnect.? if it's not that big of a deal to be in her life then just block her all the way out you know .. I had friends like this and it never got easier it got so annoying I would get Ill when they called or wanted to hang out bec it's such a impact havin to uplift someone everyday all day when there are days you may need it yourself but they cant help uplift you in return .. like @raerae2018 said she's probably grievin over her child and I totally understand that I feel horrible for her loss but she cant just try takin over your life with your pregnancy bec that happened , and tbh that would be kinda scary but I really hope you 2 get it figured out hun .. hope I could help some ..