Am I a bad person for not letting my brother have anything to do with my daughter and not wanting…

It’s his life. He wants to be with a cheater let him learn the hard way. He’s still your brother and at the end of the day family is all you have left.

This seems like a silly reason to cut someone out of your life tbh.

@ek620, maybe it is but he constantly chooses to be around bad people and I don’t want that around my kids yanno? Anytime he ever came over to see sky he asked me for money and that’s not cool to use your niece as an excuse like that.

@alejandra1x, you’re absolutely right once he apologizes for coming at me the way he did about the whole situation then it’ll change but until he grows a pair and apologizes I don’t think I want anything to do with him

I think you’re being a little extra to be honest. It’s his business what he does in his love life. I don’t think just because he kept talking to this girl that means he chose a girl over his family. I’d just make it clear that you want nothing to do with his personal life and the people he chooses to be with.

I mean, cutting him completely out of your life cause he wants to be with her is a little much in my opinion.. unless she is the type of person to put your kids safety as risk when she's around.. other than that if he's grown its just something he has to learn on his own.. its not really that he's choosing her over you.

@_sheriee, you’re right thank you

I don't think you should stop a child having an uncle because of a petty fight. Its like you are using the baby as a weapon. That's wrong.

@mhbb3, I’m not trying to I just don’t want the kind of drama and negativity they bring around her and she’s never with anyone but me if she was occasionally with my mom or sister I’d let him see her I just don’t want to be around him

Hes allowed to live his own life. You cant be mad at him for making a choice just because you dont agree. You dont get to chose who he dates. If he didnt want to listen to you.. then oh well. That's his problem. If something happened to him tomorrow would you really be ok with feeling the way towards him that you do right now? There are more important things in life. Chances are in a few months he will have moved on. Why waste time you cant get back?

Okay I’m gonna disagree with everybody else on this post BUT, anyway you’re feeling is valid because you’re the one feeling it and nobody else. If you feel like there is a lack of respect from him or he is too negative and problematic ESPECIALLY around your children then I would say go with what you think is best. It’s your choice who to have around your child and they’re always learning from the people around them.

@akcatprincess, thank you for that!

I def wouldn’t stop my kids from having a relationship with someone who cheated on him. That’s super silly, if my brother told me he didn’t want me to be with my husband and I didn’t listen I wouldn’t expect him to use his kids as pawns to try and make me leave my man in order to be an aunt. I think you should try reversing the roles and think how would you feel. He’s an adult he can be with whoever he wants you are his sister not his wife. I’d also think of how you think your kids would feel if when they grow up and don’t have a relationship with their uncle and possibly cousins (if he’s with the cheater she could very well possibly be the future mother of your nieces/nephews) and find out “oh we don’t know them because mom told uncle not to be with her”.

@mommytosms I feel like you have some valid reasons for wanting to keep some distance. If he's trying to use you for money and drama then I wouldn't spend much time with him either. As far as the dating thing I think it's good you voiced your concerns and now it's up to him.

@nvonehrenkrook, thank you 🙏🏽

@mommytosms

Just check your motives. Kids shouldn't be brought into issues between adults. The mature thing for both of you is to put aside the nonsense and allow baby to have as much family and love as possible.

No disrespect love but I do not feel like that is a reason to keep your brother out if his niece life. You should keep your concern and issue with your brother and do not involve the child. You also have to remember that your brother has the right to date anyone he wants regardless of the circumstance. Do I agree that him being cheated on was ok?? Not at all but if he is an adult he makes his own decision. All you can do is continue to look out for him and best advice just leave his relationship to him but please do not involve your children. He will always be your brother and if he does not want to take your advice he will learn the hard way. Best of luck to you.❤

@williamsl.miesha, thank you! 💕

@mommytosms you are welcome hun