I’m in such a tight spot right now. So, my doctor & cardiologist both basically told me I need to be…
I’m in such a tight spot right now. So, my doctor & cardiologist both basically told me I need to be exercising to lose weight. I have a Fatty Liver & Tachycardia (along with anxiety, depression & reflux). I feel like when I explain to my husband if my stomach hurts or if I’m having any other health issues, it feels as if he doesn’t care or doesn’t believe me. Whenever I want to go to the gym, he always tries to convince me not to go so we can spend time together. I’m a stay at home mom so I’m always home when he gets off work. I barely ever leave the house unless it’s for an appointment or something. So I end up giving him what he wants and stay home but I feel like I keep neglecting my health & I can tell that it’s taking a toll on my body. How do I make my husband happy yet take care of myself at the same time 😩 I only go to the gym 2-3 days a week. I don’t think that’s too much. He makes me feel like I HAVE to be home when he is. I hAte feeling controlled. 😏
Rachel Alexandria·
Мама троих детей
@fakoffyeh, he can’t go to the gym with me cuz the girls are usually in bed when I go. It’s literally the only time I can go bcuz he works all the time 😏 I wish he would understand.
Rachel Alexandria·
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@ayaleenmom, seriously that is EXACTLY how I feel! My husband Sadat’s he understands but he’s not supportive AT ALL! Have you ever had a panic attack? Because what you described sounds a lot like what happens to me when I begin to feel like I’m gonna have one 😏
Rachel Alexandria·
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@ayaleenmom, I wish I had the motivation. I always swear I’m gonna do it at home but then I get too comfy on the couch & literally don’t move. When I go to the gym, I can force myself to get motivated since I have to drive 15 minutes to even get there. It’s just getting myself out of the house!
Rachel Alexandria·
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@honeyxxbee, wow that sounds awesome. I’ll definitely have to check that out!
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Is there a gym that has daycare so you can take the kids? Do you have a car available when he’s gone so maybe you can go during the day? I totally get it mama, after my first I had such bad anxiety (I have had it my whole life) and I let myself go. The best thing I ever did was after my second was born find a reputable fitness center for my boys to spend an hour or two in their daycare. I drove an hour round trip but it was my only self care. Not only did I avoid PPD/PPA this time, but I lost an extra 15 lb below PP weight!
Rachel Alexandria·
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@sarahbethk, that’s awesome! I wish there was one with a daycare around here but unfortunately there isn’t that I know of. 😟
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@ayaleenmom, sounds really similar to when I have a panic attack. They’re the absolute worst! You feel like you’re going to die. Hang in there mama 💙
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@twinmommy1717, YMCA is definitely a good option too!
Rachel Alexandria·
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@ayaleenmom, the best advice i could give you is just breathe! I know in that moment, it feels like the world is gonna come to an end but it will get better. I also ended up calling 911 once because of what I thought was a heart attack or something. I now know that it was a panic attack. I never thought they were going to end. 😞 I still have them now but less frequently & when I do have them, I can manage them better. I see a counselor & take antidepressants.
Rachel Alexandria·
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@ayaleenmom, honestly it’s helped SO much. I hated having to be put on meds because I felt like I was taking a step backwards in the wrong direction but I guess sometimes it’s just about getting yourself to a better place that matters.