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Stephanie Calzada
Stephanie Calzada
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I have a situation.. So ive been babysitting my friends son lately for like like a week hes 3.. I also have my 2month…

I have a situation..

So ive been babysitting my friends son lately for like like a week hes 3.. I also have my 2month old n i wake up most the night to cater to my child..n she wants to be picking me up at 5am or 6am daily for watch her son... I haven't been wanting to go but dont have the heart so say so.. But it just bugs me cause she no longer ask me when this new week started if i could watch him.. She just says "i need you ___day ..and ill pick you up at @ ___ am .." as if i have no choice any more ..she has the tendency of using people.. But i just cant get myself to tell her anything .. Im exhausted with just my baby as it is ..i need help

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calzaste96

Stephanie CalzadaМама сына-младенца

@leonardsquared i understand what you mean n thank youu... I handled it last night.. I honestly think shes mad at me now ..which i hate but i needed to rest especially today ..cause i didn't get to actually sleep till 6

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themothafuckinladymarlow

LindenМама сына (3 года)

You need to have a chat with her girl, this isn't right. Those first few months are SUCH an adjustment. You're tired, tryin to figure out the signs, sights and sounds of this new tiny person you're responsible for, find a new routine for your daily life and the changes that a baby brings to your relationship with your husband. It takes a while to find your new normal after baby and you NEED to take time to REST and find your groove. Just ask her to please think back to when she was a new mom and to empathize with you. If she's all mad and can't be understanding to what you're goin through then she's being extremely selfish only thinking of herself and not a true friend to you. I mean you could maybe offer to keep him like once a week if you feel bad but you are obligated by NO MEANS! Hell, I'm pretty sure I walked around my house with no shirt on the first 4 months, figuring out breastfeeding. I could not imagine not being in my own comfortable environment during those first few months. You gotta say something BEFORE you get to your breaking point and everything goes to hell mama. Your physical and mental health are VITAL to you being able to effectively take care of your own family and that is always your first priority, YOUR family. I mean, it sucks having a sitter issue but it's an issue that's hers not yours. Sorry if that sounds shitty to say but it's the truth.

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calzaste96

Stephanie CalzadaМама сына-младенца

@tennesseehawk yes like 20$ a day its not much ....like i said im doing it to help her but she seems to be over using it too much .. I just want to rest n by the time i get home its kinda late n still have to get dinner ready for my husband .. But because of how late i get home we just get fast food lately so he can he in bed on time ..which takes money out our pockets as well

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tennesseehawk

TennesseeHawkМама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего

Does she even pay you?

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calzaste96

Stephanie CalzadaМама сына-младенца

@spookylyn yes after today i will have to talk to her ... Even my husband gets mad n tells me he will message her for me but i always stop him... Cause my niceness gets in the way 😩.. Ughhhh i need to learn to say no

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calzaste96

Stephanie CalzadaМама сына-младенца

I had my husband take me to her a few times but that leaves him tired too n he works 12hrs a day in straight sun and heat ..he needs his rest too..😩...

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calzaste96

Stephanie CalzadaМама сына-младенца

@tennesseehawk sometimes being so nice sucks 😩 ughhh ill feel so bad but i have too.. Especially since i can't sleep all night baby wakes up at 1 or 2 am n doesn't fall back asleep till like 3 leaving me no time to really rest myself before she picks me up at like 5am or 6 .. And her son need to be constantly watched like he cant leave your sight for anything cause he breaks or draws on everything if you don't... N i be so tired i fall asleep n force myself to be up to watch him .. I cant 😩

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brittgale

BrittanyМама сына (2 года)

Oh I’m sorry hun. Just speak and tell her! That’s the only way to change it. She should be understanding to a new mom.

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tennesseehawk

TennesseeHawkМама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего

Yeah no lol that wouldn’t fly with me. I would just flat out tell her “I’m not available to watch your son anymore, I have my own to look after.” Don’t let her walk all over you

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calzaste96

Stephanie CalzadaМама сына-младенца

@spookylyn i might just have too cause im physically tired and stressed to the point to where i snap at my husband now for mo reason from it all..i need the extra money but i need a break more .. So ill have a talk with her ..

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calzaste96

Stephanie CalzadaМама сына-младенца

@brittgale cause i dont have enough space where i live to have her son here n to tend to my son as well.. @boymomx3 i know but im not one to speak out or tell people no when they ask me things..@spookylyn she knows im a stay at home mom i dont do anything but tend to my baby but for a first time mom its exhausting with just my son... N then her son is bad and doesn't listen n throws tantrums in which he throws things always nearly hitting my baby and its frustrating... I just want to be able to rest n not have to constantly worry about him around my baby all day. ...plus she just got custody of her kids again.. I told i would help..but not all the time i want my own time as well ..

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brittgale

BrittanyМама сына (2 года)

Why can’t she bring the child to you instead? You need to speak up and advocate for yourself. If you’re too exhausted, say so! Newborns are hard work! Good luck, mama!

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boymomx4

Boymomx4+1girlМама троих детей

No you have a choice she may be your friend but she can’t expect you to do it all the time, or expect you to do it without asking. You always have your own baby to take care of.

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Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday…

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?

3RD UPDATE: What would you do?

3RD UPDATE: What would you do? Ok, so we have these new neighbors they have been there renting the house 2 doors down for about 3 months or so. They have a 2 year old boy, he just turned two. They have asked me to babysit him on multiple occasions, just so happens I've been busy each time. In my mind, they don't know me or anything about me. Barely know my name and they want me to watch their kid because they see I have kids and stay home. Apparently they haven't had any luck with the babysitters they have had. Well his sister just moved in and she had the little boy all morning. I get a text at 11 from the mom asking if I can come get the boy because the sister needs to leave to work on her car?.... I told her I would but was on my way to the store and would be back at 12 and would get him then. So I get back and the sister brings him over. He doesn't know me at all, but he is a very good little boy. I had no problems with him the whole time. So here is my question, I watched him from 12 to 530, the mom texted at 2 and asked how much I told her 10-15 just because I'm nice. If it was me in that situation on such short notice and someone saving my ass to watch my kid I would give them 15-20 if they said 10-15. So the dad picked him up and said the mom would pay when she got home. I just texted and asked her because she's been home since 6 (now it's 930) if she was bring over the money, I was super nice about it. She said her husband had to go to the bank, so he went and came back and then she texted me that it was on the front porch. They gave me $8. Like really? I just find this super weird. Would you be kinda thrown back by this also? I definitely learned my lesson and won't be "helping out" anymore. I just thought this was nuts.