@leonardsquared i understand what you mean n thank youu... I handled it last night.. I honestly think shes mad at me now ..which i hate but i needed to rest especially today ..cause i didn't get to actually sleep till 6

You need to have a chat with her girl, this isn't right. Those first few months are SUCH an adjustment. You're tired, tryin to figure out the signs, sights and sounds of this new tiny person you're responsible for, find a new routine for your daily life and the changes that a baby brings to your relationship with your husband. It takes a while to find your new normal after baby and you NEED to take time to REST and find your groove. Just ask her to please think back to when she was a new mom and to empathize with you. If she's all mad and can't be understanding to what you're goin through then she's being extremely selfish only thinking of herself and not a true friend to you. I mean you could maybe offer to keep him like once a week if you feel bad but you are obligated by NO MEANS! Hell, I'm pretty sure I walked around my house with no shirt on the first 4 months, figuring out breastfeeding. I could not imagine not being in my own comfortable environment during those first few months. You gotta say something BEFORE you get to your breaking point and everything goes to hell mama. Your physical and mental health are VITAL to you being able to effectively take care of your own family and that is always your first priority, YOUR family. I mean, it sucks having a sitter issue but it's an issue that's hers not yours. Sorry if that sounds shitty to say but it's the truth.

@tennesseehawk yes like 20$ a day its not much ....like i said im doing it to help her but she seems to be over using it too much .. I just want to rest n by the time i get home its kinda late n still have to get dinner ready for my husband .. But because of how late i get home we just get fast food lately so he can he in bed on time ..which takes money out our pockets as well

Does she even pay you?

@spookylyn yes after today i will have to talk to her ... Even my husband gets mad n tells me he will message her for me but i always stop him... Cause my niceness gets in the way 😩.. Ughhhh i need to learn to say no

I had my husband take me to her a few times but that leaves him tired too n he works 12hrs a day in straight sun and heat ..he needs his rest too..😩...

@tennesseehawk sometimes being so nice sucks 😩 ughhh ill feel so bad but i have too.. Especially since i can't sleep all night baby wakes up at 1 or 2 am n doesn't fall back asleep till like 3 leaving me no time to really rest myself before she picks me up at like 5am or 6 .. And her son need to be constantly watched like he cant leave your sight for anything cause he breaks or draws on everything if you don't... N i be so tired i fall asleep n force myself to be up to watch him .. I cant 😩

Oh I’m sorry hun. Just speak and tell her! That’s the only way to change it. She should be understanding to a new mom.

Yeah no lol that wouldn’t fly with me. I would just flat out tell her “I’m not available to watch your son anymore, I have my own to look after.” Don’t let her walk all over you

@spookylyn i might just have too cause im physically tired and stressed to the point to where i snap at my husband now for mo reason from it all..i need the extra money but i need a break more .. So ill have a talk with her ..

@brittgale cause i dont have enough space where i live to have her son here n to tend to my son as well.. @boymomx3 i know but im not one to speak out or tell people no when they ask me things..@spookylyn she knows im a stay at home mom i dont do anything but tend to my baby but for a first time mom its exhausting with just my son... N then her son is bad and doesn't listen n throws tantrums in which he throws things always nearly hitting my baby and its frustrating... I just want to be able to rest n not have to constantly worry about him around my baby all day. ...plus she just got custody of her kids again.. I told i would help..but not all the time i want my own time as well ..

Why can’t she bring the child to you instead? You need to speak up and advocate for yourself. If you’re too exhausted, say so! Newborns are hard work! Good luck, mama!

No you have a choice she may be your friend but she can’t expect you to do it all the time, or expect you to do it without asking. You always have your own baby to take care of.