you need to get you and your kids out of that situation. And as soon as you have everything worked out and you will be moving out, that's when I think you should bring it up to everyone. let them know exactly why you're moving out and your concerns about that poor little 11 year-old girl. Plant the seed. Don't just leave and not say anything, even if they get mad, at least at that point you'll be on your way out, but you need to plant that seed in your mom's head and let her husband know you have concerns.

You could even go as far as having someone check out her living situation with her mother, if you feel your concerns are that real, you need to protect your children but you should also try to protect that 11 year old girl as well, it's not her fault if something's happening to her and she's projecting it on to others.

@jordanrwilliams25, yeah either the girl has had something happen to her and is just projecting or she’s acting out curiosities on my kids either way I’m trying to avoid it altogether

Yeahhhh .. id get out of there. Some of it could be curiousity but some of the other things makes it seem like she's grooming them.

That’s def strange behaviour. My son is 11 and he has a few friends who are girls they interact with my daughters and never in the world would they be interested in doing those types of things with my daughters. Also the whole dressing thing sounds like how my 7&5 year old play with their 2 year old cousin and at that it’s more the 5 year old whose interested in doing that in a “playing mommy” type role. I don’t feel playing dress up is something an 11 year old would/should be interested in anymore.

Have you discussed their behaviors with your doctor?

@oceanhalo I agree

Looks like the best decision is to leave that environment for the sake of your daughters. If you stay that's just the beginning and you don't know what else that little girl will try with your babies

you need to get you and your kids out of that situation. And as soon as you have everything worked out and you will be moving out, that's when I think you should bring it up to everyone. let them know exactly why you're moving out and your concerns about that poor little 11 year-old girl. Plant the seed. Don't just leave and not say anything, even if they get mad, at least at that point you'll be on your way out, but you need to plant that seed in your mom's head and let her husband know you have concerns.

You could even go as far as having someone check out her living situation with her mother, if you feel your concerns are that real, you need to protect your children but you should also try to protect that 11 year old girl as well, it's not her fault if something's happening to her and she's projecting it on to others.

@letmegetagrip sorry but I do have to agree unfortunately.. your mom should be concerned not dismissing you and your real concerns

@jordanrwilliams25 yeah it's kind of a guilty reaction. If he gets mad over something like that and her mom ignores it. Most parents would talk about it and seek the child help. Not ignore or get pissed off because shes getting accused of it. It's just a little strange.

@letmegetagrip yeah because I can see him being offended but he shouldn't ignore it and explode . Explosive issues or not .. that's kind of a guilty over protective reaction

@alyboo102293 maybe try to figure out a way to talk to your 5 year old .. she may not understand completely but she may understand simple explained questions about that girl and anything weird like touching anywhere .you just might get a weird answer or look on her face that will explain alot .. that other girl needs counseling

@alyboo102293 maybe he's doing it to her? And your mom knows she just doesnt want him to hurt her?

@alyboo102293.

Not your fault..it just hurt me later cause my parents knew about it at 5 and didn't put a stop to it.

@letmegetagrip totally

@akirasisk11, my mom refuses to walk that line and even mention it to her husband because he’ll probably just flip his shit and try to divorce her & try to kick me and my kids out caught he has a explosive disorder but I feel like as a adult he should definitely be looking into seeking her help because something is way off with her

And most of the time when a girl who is 11 is acting like that somebody might be touching her wrong, that's probably why she thinks it's okay...

@akirasisk11, thank you , I’m sorry you went through that I also was touched by neighbor kids and thought nothing of it because I was young so I never spoke out but I remember it like it was yesterday & at the time it didn’t seem wrong we would be playing & I thought it was okay but lookin back now , no it wasn’t at all it was very wrong.

@alyboo102293 @jordanrwilliams25 I agree they have to learn it from someone. That's just not a normal thing for a child to be doing that to younger children.

Even the curiosity is from some sort of suggestion somehow

Wow keep them away

Kids I believe learn that stuff from somewhere it's not just like hey that's a pee pee let me play with mine and yours .. ya know what I mean?!

@jordanrwilliams25, yeah either the girl has had something happen to her and is just projecting or she’s acting out curiosities on my kids either way I’m trying to avoid it altogether

Happened to me a few times..

First time it happened i was 5 and my step brother was 10 and he used to touch or dry hump me, didn't think it was wrong until i was a adult.

And a other time it happened is when i was like 10 and touched wrong by a 16 old boy, it was my friends brother and i was at a sleep over.

And a other time i was touched wrong was when i was in my preteens by my foster dad.

So yea sounds pretty shady to me, i would find your own place and just get out of there.

Yeahhh that definitely raises a brow 🤨. Use your best judgement.

@alyboo102293 sounds like a lot is being see or discussed with adults in inappropriate ways at her mother's house .. idk I'm just saying

@letmegetagrip, yeah she acts very odd around my kids and at first it all seemed innocent but over time I’ve gotten extremely uncomfortable when she’s around my kids because of how they behave when she leaves. One day after they went back to their moms house my 5 year old was playing at the bottom of our stairs in our living room and I over hear her asking her 3 year old sister if she wants to see her pee pee, I’ve never referred to her private as a “pee pee” so I’ve been on edge ever since that comment was made by her also it seems like my 3 year olds normal touching on herself amplifies when she is around and right after she leaves. I’m just at a loss with my family over it. @jordanrwilliams25,

Definitely would make me skeptical

My stepdads nephew was like that. He got in trouble for touching a girls private parts at school he got in big trouble for it. I think your being a good mom and making good choices about removing your children from a situation like that.