Am I wrong for this? My sister who is going to be 22 and her GF were invited to my daughters first…
Am I wrong for this?
My sister who is going to be 22 and her GF were invited to my daughters first birthday party this coming week. However, they broke up, and inbetween the time I invited her and her GF and now, her GF was running her mouth about me to my sister. And she in turn told me. So I said you know what, she's no longer allowed to come. This isn't the first time she's said things about me, and I forgave her numerous times. She tweeted about me on Twitter, and even took pictures with my kids without my permission and then used it as a profile picture without my permission as well.
So after I forgave her for all that, she still again had negative things to say about me. So I said you know what, I'm not doing it anymore. She isn't allowed to come. Now, when I univited her, it wasn't really a big deal because they shortly after broke up. But now, they're basically back together so she wants her to come.
She messaged me a few days ago asking if she was still univited and I said yes, and she just said okay. Well last night she messaged me again and this was the first message she sent me. "Listen. Rachel really wants to go to the party to see the kids. So it would be cool if she could go. Cuz technically she never did anything to you. And I get you might not like her but you can be nice because I didn’t like Brian either and I was nice to him." Like what? So she has lied this whole time, about how she really feels about my husband, and also, who starts a conversation with listen, and basically tells you what you need to do?
Anyway, I told her no, it's my daughters party and I shouldn't have to try and get along with people I don't like at a party I'm hosting. And she went on to say it's the sisterly thing to do, and fine don't accept who she has in her life, she'll remember that, and that I'm rude, and she hasn't liked people I've dated, but she was nice to them, but she'll be the bigger person don't worry.
Like what the heck? I'm pretty sure I have every right to not want her there, and the situations she's comparing aren't really similar since this is a party I am hosting, so. I feel like I have the right to not want certain people around my kids.
Jaz·
You are definitely not wrong. I wouldn't want her there either. If you dnt like me, I dnt want you around my kids. Period.
Yaya Carrington·
Мама троих детей
You do have the right to keep her away from your kids, but you are risking your relationship with your sister in order to enforce it. Only you know whether it's worth it or not.
Heather 👰👪👪·
@yayacarrington She'll get over it, lol.
Mikey·
You have every right to choose who you want around you and your children. If a person can’t respect you, they don’t need to be around your children. If you don’t feel comfortable around them you have every right to choose to not be around that. Besides you don’t need any negative energy at your child’s party after all it’s about the child.
Heather 👰👪👪·
@micha0905 Exactly I want her party to be about her! And people genuinely enjoying themselves. Not having to pretend to like people lol.
Melissa·
It’s your kids birthday party! If you don’t want her there then that should be the end of it. We don’t invite one of my SIL simple because she will cause drama. We don’t need drama at a kids party.
Tina·
I wouldn’t invite someone to my kids birthday party who was constantly disrespectful towards me. Whether it be to my face or behind my back. And I’d be peeved that your sister tried to brush it all off and guilt you into inviting her.
Kristen ·
Мама троих детей
You had every right. I don't put up with crap like that.