@heavensent3, I know I’m late I just got the app today .. but my msn has never cheated on me but he does do shit that I wouldn’t approve of that he wouldn’t approve of as well .. and he always uses the excuse he’s trying to change he love me to death I’m his one and only etc etc .. but I keep asking myself how do you hurt someone you claim you love?? He keep doing the same thing as well

@heavensent3, I hope you find peace and love. Focus on you and your babies and it will be ok. Remind yourself your strong, beautiful and independent! Take his ass for child support and you do you girl

Every story is different, but in your situation no way. If it got to where he decided he wanted her over me, and left me to be with her? There’s no way. Now he’s trying to come back a month later?

Say you do decide to work on things. You can’t trust him. Anything he does your going to wonder if he’s talking to someone else, or out with someone else. Why live like that? Life is too short to be with someone like that.

Work on trying to co-parent.

If he truly wanted to fix it and showed it by his actions, yes I would give him a second chance and find forgiveness in myself for him.

I have in the past and wasted alot of years doing so. It doesn't get better in my opinion. They just usually get smarter at hiding it. So glad I hav3 a faithful man now !!

That’s so hard And although my husband has never cheated on me my dad did cheat on my mom and it hurt her so much. I feel like if it was a one time drunkin night maybe forgive him. But if it’s something that he is doing completely sober and risking our family for sex hell no, you can’t lay next to me like everything is okay. My mom stayed because she had kids, it sucked !! They always were fighting never happy, just think about the kids having a happy home vs y’all staying together and there being no trust or y’all fighting all the time. Eventually you’ll get over him. Good luck momma

@kbbaybee16, but thank you for your kind words. I needed to hear that

Nope. Never again.

@kbbaybee16, yes and he came back but last week he did it again and I’m so hurt like why?? Well I know I don’t want to go back with him he’s hurt me too much is that I still feel like I love him idk why 😔😔

Honestly reading your post from August saying he chose HER.... hell no i wouldn’t take him back. You may love him but he obviously doesn’t love u back by choosing the other woman. I’m so sorry you’re going thru this. One day you’ll find someone (if you choose to) and he will love you instead of hurt you

@heavensent3 don't worry about letting him see you cry, make him realize he hurt you. Men and women do this to the person they commit to and just think it's fine...it's not fine it's shitty and he should see that your hurting but don't let it last too long because your strong and someone will love you hands down and never hurt you.

@mcole472, thank you

@mcole472, no and I don’t want to do that is just that I’m sacred when I see him I’ll break down and cry in front of him and I don’t want to do that I don’t want him to see me like that I love him so much it’s why I can’t believe he would do something like that 😥

Your feelings are between you and your husband.. you children should not be held in the middle if they want to see their dad let them if he is wanting to be in their life let him... A judge will side with you more if you aren't using your kids against your husband

@heavensent3 my ex husband chose not to see his soon for 6 months after we split. But I didn't keep him from his dad. I would have let him go had he asked for him

@mcole472, yes that’s so true I mean I really love him but the thought of him being intimate with someone else and him breaking my trust just really kills me

@mcole472, did he see your son in between those three months? Sorry to ask but I have three kids with him and idk if to let my kids see their dad or wait until my feelings are not that hurt

I wouldn't be able to stay because there would be no trust between us. To me if you love someone you would never intentionally hurt them

My thought on what I went through is that if he is willing to lay with someone else while committed to me he didn't give a shit about me to begin with.

My now ex husband cheated on me. Had a girlfriend for about three months before I found out. I packed my son and myself up and left. And I filed for a divorce 3 months later.