@jessrowett, it's a complete joke honestly the kids are all I'm staying around for too but there comes a point where you can't carry on he spends enough on fags a week let alone weed and drink whenever he gets abit 'bored' Thank you Hun xxx

@kerryy23, thank you hun💕xxx

I’m going through the same thing at the minute, well not exactly the same because I don’t have another child, but all my boyfriends bothered about is seeing his mates and smoking weed I keep getting the urge to leave but I want my baby to see us both every day and see us happy they really do not realise what it’s like to be pregnant! But I’m here if you ever need to message anyone xxx

I'm only 5 mins down the road from you hun, if it gets too much or you ever need someone to off-load to just drop me a message, I'm happy to meet up for a coffee and a chat 😘xx

@winterbaby95 that's exactly what my little girls dad says to me when we argue. Why are men all or nothing all the time. 😔 We'll muddle through, that's one thing us mum's are great at x

@olivia_monique you have such a mature head on your shoulders for your age hun. What you're saying is exactly right, he will soon realise when he has nothing, when all his mates are settling down, getting married/having children and he's lost all that because he couldn't step up when he needed to. Regardless of age, the minute you become a parent, children come first, you put your nights out with your mates on the back burner.

Focus on your babies hun. They need you xxx

@olivia_monique It will be hard..especially when you feel so deeply for someone :) but the weight off your shoulders will be worth it xx

@olivia_monique Exactly hun :) Dont waste time or breath on it...im sure youve said all youve wanted to say...leave him to it.

Focus on yourself and your babies...dont do anything for him xx

@winterbaby95, definitley not! I think my decision is made to just let him grown up on his own and maybe he'll realise his mistakes sooner rather than later as there's more to life than weed and drink when he has a family at home xx

@kerryy23, well this past week has been good without him here I've just distracted myself a lot more than I would on a normal day with him around maybe he was never mature enough for the whole family life but when he's older with nothing he'll soon realise so I need to let him learn and make his own mistakes and maybe he'll grow up on his own without me mothering him xx

@olivia_monique as hard as it will be mentally if you decide to leave him. Physically you will find a massive weight lifted off your shoulders hun, not constantly stressing, worrying where he is, what he's doing. And besides you seem to be doing it all on your own anyway! Obviously I don't know him to know his personality but do you think giving him the boot might give him a kick up the arse to sort himself out?

You have a daughter already, and another on the way it's about time he grew up and realised that children come with responsibility, and that responsibility shouldn't be left solely on you x

@olivia_monique Doing right by the kids...is first doing right by yourself :) Your kids wouldnt want an unhappy mummy hun xx

@winterbaby95, I honestly hope he'll make the effort with her without me there I just want to do right by the kids x

If you arent happy..then leave...doesnt seem like he respects you at all :) I left my daughters dad knowing she will never see him again...because he said...if i ever left he would block her from his life. And thats what he did....I wasnt happy though and I put up with it for longer than i shouldve xx

@olivia_monique You know hun, splitting up doesnt mean your daughter will never see her daddy. If he wants to be in her life..he will...with or without you :) x

I hope things get better for you hun xxxx

@vixster, I feel like I have responsibility for him though as he's lived with us since being kicked out at 16 and his family not bother since yet there's no appreciation and all I ask myself is will he ever change? Or will he continue to lie and hurt me anyway?x

@kerryy23, hopefully one day he realises if he can switch his phone of while I'm heavily pregnant and ignore every message and phone call then he isn't worth it tbh he can't even grow a pair to defend me over his so called friend that calls me a physcho and that he should leave me because I ask him where he is all I've done is help him through everything and I've gone through so much throughout these past two years and he was never there for me with my eating disorder I had to overcome that myself 😔xx

@vixster, they always realise when it's to late sometimes you have to think of your own happiness if he isn't gonna change he's got to realise his own mistakes instead of me pointing them out to him constantly xx

I'll agree with the above ladies @olivia_monique it will get better as he gets older.. Men take a lot longer than women to mature.. I think as a woman the second we become a parent we mature over night.. My OH is 12 years older than me so luckily he's past the out smoking/ drinking stage, he will occasionally go out and disappear all night but it literally only happens maybe twice a year, and I hit him with a major ton of shit when he gets home. Focus on your babies, they will know who was there and who wasn't as they grow, it's only him that's missing out.. Hugs 🤗xx

@vixster, I have noticed the change in her behaviour wise since he hasn't stayed here for over a week I've just been trying to occupy her mind by taking her places on his days of and letting him spend his days of with her I love him dearly but honestly I can't deal with it anymore when I'm always last xx

@jamieleighx, exactly and there happiness is all I'm thinking of right now as my daughters old enough to understand where daddy is which hurts the most that we aren't first xx

@emilyanderson11111, honestly he'd of been long gone if we didn't have kids but they're all I'm thinking of my daughter loves him to bits and she's old enough to know where daddy is 😔xxx

@olivia_monique maybe he needs a good scare, he needs to know you aren't going to put up with weed smoking and drinking. Kids come first no matter how old you are (that isn't meant to sound harsh)! But as you say, you don't need the stress, even if you weren't 34 weeks pregnant.. Xx

@emilyanderson11111, I tell him all the time don't lie and I the kick of won't be as bad as if he does lie to me but he never seems to learn but we've been through so much he slept with two girls we was on a break and he moved out and we was really bad this was October last year but we got back together in December and I practically got pregnant straight away but I believe he only got with me as the other girl didn't want to know anymore which maybe I'm right as he doesn't have no family they kicked him out at 16 and he's lived with me ever since all I've tried to do is help him but he'd rather choose others over me and our family xxx

@jamieleighx, I hope they do grow out of it he hasn't lived with me in over a week as all he seems to do is lie and I don't need the stress at almost 34 weeks I'd rather stress free xx

@emilyanderson11111, I told him to choose weed or me and the kids and he said it's obviously us but he'd still be lying a smoking it and that isn't choosing us really so he hasn't lived with me in over a week he said he'll prove to me he'll change but why did he change into someone I didn't fall in love with anyway😔xxx

My partner always tells me I'm boring... I'm OK with it I know I am 😂 I'd much rather have my feet up with a cup of peppermint tea and Theo cuddling me than going out drinking and having a hangover in the morning 🤢😂 he works shifts and goes off to play football on one of his days off, if not he goes boxing. That's his time to himself, he will occasionally go drinking but not as much as before... We are young too, hes 23 and I'm 22. Think it's just an age thing. They seem to grow out of it X

Not trouble free that’s meant to say

Yeah. Don’t get me wrong we fell out plenty of time but 15 years on Now trouble free but still together. Relationships r hard and take work from both sides x

@3kidsandkat, maybe it is immaturity but one day he'll lose everything but they have to learn from their mistakes I guess xx

I think sometimes it’s just their age I was quite luck my oh has quite an old head on his shoulders and was never into hanging about I mean we’ve been together 15 years now but he’s never been like it. Some men just take a while to grow up

@3kidsandkat, he's 20/21 in November x

@elletaylor, it's always him on his phone or out working or out with his friends we exist in the morning when he wakes up but still isn't the greatest person to wake up to with his moody self I really don't know how I can make him want to be in this relationship when we ain't the first on his mind he'll turn his phone of I'm very ill throughout this pregnant and he'll ignore me all night long xx

We have started taking it turns to pick a surprise place to go and explore with the dog each weekend so we can spend quality time with each other that’s not us being tired after work on the sofa on our phones all evening!

How old is he if u don’t mind me asking

Oh no we’re not like that we do things together but cos he works earlys all the time he’s forever falling asleep and just wants to chill whereas I wud like some fun now and again x

@3kidsandkat, I'm just a parent I don't have no fun other than my kids i invite him to do things but he just puts it of to go drinking or smoke with his friends all night in a stupid car park xx

@bluebluesky, thank you Hun! Honestly we've been together since school but he'd rather stay out and go drinking which obviously isn't my life I'm heavily pregnant I don't feel up for doing anything but neither does he offer xx

It’s the other way round for us I call him boring and want some spark in my life but he Dosent seem to care lol

This is not a nice thing to say for your loved one 😱

To be honest really want to punch your OH.. I have been looking after your account a while and you are a great mommy and your girl so pretty and smart, you do an amazing job raising your little one :)

Maybe for your men you boring, but your kids will tell you a big thank you when they grow up xx 🙏

Hope he will change his mind 🤷‍♀️

My OH always calls me boring. Tells me I'm old before my time 😂

All the time apperntly am a granny ..x