I didn't have much of a choice and I know it feels like you don't either. Hang in there girl. Remember your partner is your biggest alley not your enemy.

@tavi.young, oh my goodness. She sounds horrible! You are a saint for dealing with that.

First, Congrats on 8 years that's amazing! And second, that is absolutely awful. I am so sorry. I dealt with crappy in laws. They wrongfully kicked us out of their rental and would show up every single day without warning if not multiple times. Always incited my guy's rose ex over all the time. Told family members she thought I would hurt my baby because I was so depressed, when in reality I was in contact with my psychiatrist, therapist, and OB throughout my pregnancy (decided not to take meds during pregnancy and started breastfeeding friendly option directly after birth) because I would NOT let my baby go even a night without a bath. She would shit talk, pardon my french, me to my fiancé and my fiancé to me to pit us against each other. We have been together 5 years. Then she would tell me everything I was doing in our house was wrong, would 100% rearrange my kitchen when she was the one who organized it in the first place. She would take my son and when I would protest she would say "I needed sleep" then not return him until we did whatever she wanted that day. That was the final straw when she basically held him like a pawn not a human being and would not bring him home until we did a bunch of landscaping. We were renters and it only said basic upkeep in our lease and we would have been happy to do the work to help but we didn't have the tools and it had been a whole day and a half since I saw my baby. My fiancé finally told her that she needed to bring him back, not exactly rudely but very sternly after we had asked several times. She blew up and ran into the house screaming we had 60 days to get the hell out (we had always paid our ridiculously high rent and all utilities on time apart from one month when we had our half and roommate left us over $1500 in the hole with previous rent we had paid for him, groceries for three months, and damages. I was in the house and heard none of the conversation. My baby came back with yeast infection in his mouth, roseola, an ear infection, some other viral stomach bug, and a yeast rash. I got out of the house in 3 days and will never let her see my child again because to this day she claims that "babies get yeast infections from the womb" Not at 6mos old. She goes online and started multiple fraudulent go fund me's one with my baby's picture saying his parent's abandoned him and she had five other foster kids to take care of. She did this to make up for the income she lost from us being kicked out. I am still so angry. She won't admit any wrongdoing. So girl, I know how it is lol. Sometimes I feel better when I hear someone else's problems because its like, "Alright, I'm not crazy or being ungrateful."

@tavi.young, no, I think they have the thought that no one will be good enough for their kids, I am 6 years younger than my husband, and the assumption was made that I was just after his money and our marriage wouldn’t last. We are going on 8 years of being married, so far so good. They usually come around before the babies are born, but they say horrible things when they find out and then try to buy stuff to make up for it.

Sounds like their dang problem. That is ridiculous. Did you have bad blood before you got pregnant? Are they supportive when the kids arrive?

Dont tell them till you find out gender. Enjoy it. Who cares when they find out.

@amyrachellem, I’m so sorry. 😔 It’s not fair.

Unforunately yes, were about to have our second baby boy. In 3 weeks. They haven't given us a congrats they aren't enthusiastic no happy emotions at all, everyone else in the fam is ecstatic. they seem to be looking at him as a burden to their son, my HUSBAND rather than a blessing. It breaks my heart and I have some major beef with them..We show them ultrasound pics, we talk to our now 6 yr old who gets super excited and when he tells them stuff their reaction to their 6 yr old grandson is: monotones yups and crap like it's not a big deal.

Ultimately it will be up to my husband when they find out. They always come around, and warm up to the idea after the initial shock. Maybe I will just dare them to say something about my belly. Lol

@kacysowell, exactly 👌🏼

@jack.ass, right!! Make them feel like they’re rude in asking “like wtf are you calling me fat” 😂

I wouldn’t tell them. When they see your bump- deny it 😂

I agree with everyone. And if they get an attitude just tell them you didn’t want their negative reaction.

@pissypantsparty, my in laws are the same way. But only to me and my hubby. (He has 4 other siblings and they’ve been happy for all of them) when we had our daughter we told them at 12 weeks and they told him he better not have another. Then now with this one, we were 16 weeks when they came to visit us from out of state and that’s how they found out. If they don’t want to be happy then we don’t care to tell them.

I need help being petty. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m “too nice” in my husbands words. Lol

Wait until you have the baby or until they see your bump 🤷🏽‍♀️

True. It’s hard for me because I am so close with my side of the family, and I try so hard for his side, I bend over backwards to please them and it’s never enough. I’ve thought about waiting until we are with a big group and telling them so they have to be on good behavior. But you’re right if they question why we waited to let them know, we have plenty of reasons to give them.

We sent our parents flowers and balloons to tell them the balloons was it’s a boy and the other one it’s a girl

I agree with all the above! Dont tell them. Their negativity will affect your happiness of only for a short while so dont waste your breath. They can find out when they see your growingbaby belly and ask or through another family member, screw them girl!

Let them find out from someone else or when you announce it publicly. If they’re going to be rude when you tell them, don’t tell them. You don’t need that kind of negativity when you’re doing what makes you and your family happy.

I agree with @penelope127, I wouldn’t tell them. If they’re going to act like that they don’t deserve to be apart of the news. And when/if they ask why you didn’t tell them. Bring up the the past reactions they’ve given you. That’s terrible some in laws are the worst 🤦🏻‍♀️

I wouldn’t share with them. Let them find out through other people. Let them be unhappy about it. 🤷🏼‍♀️