so my bd is in jail for violating his probation and I just had the craziest thought to maybe go visit him bc I haven’t seen him in a while and I don’t think he knows that I know that he’s in there and also he doesn’t even have a court date set so i’m not sure exactly how long he’s gonna be locked up. another thing is that throughout my pregnancy he hasn’t really been around or asked to help or been to any appts. am I crazy for considering going to visit him? I doubt I will but I also don’t want him to feel alone in there bc of course I do still care about him. idk I just wanna make sure he’s doing okay, you know?
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@jack.ass the child needs to know both parents
@kailynnpatrice why I can't make any posts at all.im being block
@keii, yes kinda, still figuring it out tho but yes only time will tell
@mimixtmn, that’s a really good point, thank you, I didn’t even look at it like that
My hubby locked up too right now...might be doing some serious time
@kailynnpatrice, Oh make sense then... Seems like you have kind of an idea kn what you are going to do! Time will tell
Maybe write him a letter if your not sure if he would want you to visit. I’m all for teaching ppl a lesson but in jail everyone needs someone for support when they are at their lowest. I’ve been thru it with my so (he has smartened up and hasn’t been in jail in a longgg time) but also his brothers. I talk to my one bil basically daily from jail he calls because he needs to to keep himself sane, he did 3 years got out for a year and has been back in now for 8 months, he has learnt his lesson now I am sure but he still won’t be home for at least another 4 years. If jail doesn’t change someone nothing else can, I can promise you if he’s in there with nobody he will turn crazy not change for the better.
i’m also really worried that if I do decide to go he’ll be like wtf are you doing here, go home or something like that and I can’t handle that rejection
@keii, well he has messed up in the past and we’re not exactly together right now and I don’t plan on trying to be w him. I would like for it to work but in order for that to happen he’s gotta grow up and get right. it’s only been about a week he’s in there so when I find out how long he’s staying or when he’s getting out then I might go see him or i’ll write a letter
Personally I would have just went with the flow.. No overthinking... If he haven’t done you wrong there is no reason not go visit him.. Anybody locked up would want to get visits from those who care... And I guess men in general do not really make it appointments.. so yeah...
Lmao high hopes on that. But for the sake of his child i really hope he does! 🙏 sometimes a child will make a man out of a boy.
@jack.ass, you’re so right & especially bc im having a boy, I really don’t want him ending up like him
@kambam, that’s true, he’s seen the most recent ones but I could probably send him the next if he’s still in there. maybe it’ll make him wanna get his life together lol
@kailynnpatrice, your instincts to cut him off seems to be the best idea. Someone who can’t stay out of jail or behave on probation is not who you want your child to look up to.
Jail isnt the best for preg women unless you have to go. You can send him some ultrasound pics if you want. Idk.
@jack.ass, you’re probably right, I been a lot less stressed since I basically cut him off but since I found out he’s in there I just can’t stop thinking about him and i’m just worrying about him I guess
Sounds like space and distance would be healthier for you and baby
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer.
My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk out...
Enjoying some fun in the sun ☀️
Don’t come for me about him not wearing a life jacket. I don’t want to hear it. He was fine 🙄
So I don’t think I will keep this pregnancy and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do
I know this sounds sooo fkedup but sometimes i wanna get into a bad accident so my husband sees exactly all the things i do ... and how wrong he is by saying i don’t do enough ( not in those words but the jist of it ) anyway .... i think this all the time . Maybe then he will think differently .
@mberjuste84, not if one parent is unhealthy and unstable.