It’s cultural. In America men are raised to put work first so they can one day provide for the family therefore get to pursue their dreams of a career a lot faster and with more sacrifices being excused. They carry the weight of independent, hard working on their shoulders (as they should in some cases) but they aren’t taught to balance family into that equation and some don’t even take family into account at all when compared to work. In other cultures like Iceland fathers are given maternity leave as well and there are just as many stay at home dads because from a young age the culture teaches it takes a village of all sexes to raise a child and the mans role is just as important in a child’s life as his/her mother. These men are praised and not called weak, sissies for taking on a more maternal role and that’s the problem with America families. The absence of a father because of work, hobbies, prison, etc is too common and considered normal when studies show a child develops to their fullest when there’s equal influence from two parents vs one.

Not justifying it.. it’s not right to me but it’s something I’ve come to accept in our lives for the time being

I think it’s an ego thing... my husband is a workaholic for sure and he always will be. Don’t get me wrong, he is a great husband and dad but it’s not hard for him to put work ahead of everything else and not even realize he’s doing it until I call him out. He finds purpose in the work “game” since he runs his own business and it’s a very unstable business. It’s stressful to me but it’s like a game of strategy to him and he wants to win 🤷‍♀️ frustrating often but at the same time I count myself lucky to have someone who is so motivated for success and allows me to be a SAHM

My husband pours his whole self into me and our daughter. Sure he works hard, but we will always be his first priority and where he puts the most effort/time/etc. If your man isn’t doing the same you need to have a serious conversation about it with him.

Not all men do