So last night hubby and I did a perineal massage too see if it'll help with tearing. It hurt so bad.…

No but my doctor did some type of massage thing when I was pushing to help prevent tearing.

I can't seem to do it myself. So I've just been rubbing mad oil that I mixed together down there🤦🏾😂

@moifait lol that's funny. That's what I was doing but we watched a video and he did it and there was so much pressure even though he claimed he wasn't pushing hard. Didn't feel like I was ready to have a baby again lol

@serrano_girl I showed my guy the video and he swears he's gonna do it, but i think I chicken out when it's time cause that ish does hurt to grab that skin😩

I have scar tissue from tearing with my last son that has made things VERY painful. My OB suggested perineal massages to help break down the scar tissue faster. I can’t do it myself either. It’s just a hard angle. So I had my husband do them and the first couple of times I had to make him stop after a few minutes. We need to start them up again because I don’t want to tear as badly as I did with my son. That healing process has taken forever. I was still in pain randomly at 13mo PP when I went in for my yearly exam. And that was BRUTAL. It’s just taken a lot of work to get to where I am now and it’s still tender.

@mom2squared I hope it works for you! I can't imagine how bad that is.

My OB that delivered my second son did perineal massage while I was pushing. Hurt like a bitch but I only needed 1 stitch. With my first son I had a severe second degree tear.

@serrano_girl, I need to get back to it. Every time I have my husband do them though he gets distracted and starts playin. Like bruh, just do the damn massage tonight. 🤣

@scream.queen that's good to know!

@mom2squared lol this is what happened last night lol

The first time my OB did it i thought it was uncomfortable. It hurt a little bit having her do it. It wasn’t as bad doing it myself. I would wait until I was in the shower and use coconut oil. I didn’t tear with either of my babies.

@tiera_shaye she only did it once or several times?

@serrano_girl, my OB only did it once in office so that I would know what it felt like. Then I would do it myself a few times a week in the shower.

@tiera_shaye oh OK got ya