Going to therapy gives me the ability to think things through before communicating my wants/needs to my husband. We have…
Going to therapy gives me the ability to think things through before communicating my wants/needs to my husband. We have a VERY UNIQUE relationship with troubles outside of average married life (thats what happens when an ex model marries a shaman😅), but we also have the same perplexing issues that ALL new parents face.
Lastnight I decided to be blunt without my typical rude tone from irritants- and told him that I miss having a sex life. I miss the cute butt taps and silly flirting. I want us to put all of our insecurities aside and love eachother in ways we did the first few weeks we were together. I want us to feel new again.
I even said that I'm willing to shave my legs and lady parts (leaving some but clearing the forest so ti speak) if it will help spice things up.
I know most women shave for many reasons but I haven't in almost 4 years because I don't mind the natural me, eventhough my hair is dark and I'm pale as can be 😅... I'm keeping the underarm hair though because f*** that razor burn! (I was furry before Madonna made it cool)
I don't care if you think its gross, ITS HOW OUR BODIES ARE SUPPOSED TO BE!
But I'm a sucker for love, I'll do anything to make this work. I know he'll appreciate it and maybe even take the time to put more effort in on his side of the team when it comes to wooing mommie 😂🙏😅
Catherine Straley·
Мама сына (1 год)
@fakoffyeh thank you lots! I appreciate the encouragement! :D
Catherine Straley·
Мама сына (1 год)
@fakoffyeh you are absolutely right! The easy way has been my path of avoiding conflict for most of our relationship. but it hasn't been as easy at it claims to be on either of us, especially me after throwing all of my independence out of the window to help aid him overcoming his insecurities without any kind of compromise on his end...
Learning to communicate the right way with him is like a whole new platform for me. I'm used to being very direct in my wants/needs and sometimes that comes across as me being some type of negative or rude. Learning a new approch that is still honest is a good goal I think. I have done and will continue to do anything for him because he does mean so much to me, and for once, finally, he seems to see the bigger picture of where my focus truely is
L·
Мама двоих (младенец)
Compromise is a great place to start! It is wonderful that you found an outlet through therapy to learn how to communicate more effectively.
Catherine Straley·
Мама сына (1 год)
@techie_grrl thank you! It's taken a long time to find the right therapist, but I think I finally have a good one! And yes compromise is everything in a relationship :)