@mrs.letty.luna, thank you ! Yeah I’m going to start looking for baby stuff but I think I’ll wait to buy until I actually get pregnant which hopefully is sooner then later.

Do what I did make a list of
what you like
what you want
What you need for baby and start purchasing used or new my hubz realized I did this when I was 3 months and appreciated so much

@kristenap, thank you for the advice ! I will definitely try it thank you ! TTC back on !

@jessicarangel707, I hear you. Maybe so he takes you more seriously ask him to actually sit down and let you talk about something that’s important to you for 5 mins. Men don’t listen much past 5 mins anyways 😂 say “look I know we want to try for a baby and I’ve been looking into what it will cost for the essential baby things. I’m not going to tell you how to spend or save your money. But I know it will be a lot less stressful on you and I down the road if we both start putting some money away now. “ and see where that goes. If he doesn’t respond well than give him some time, don’t bother him about it and let him come around. He will understand when he sees price tags of things later on and he will just have to work extra hard to save. Wish you the best 💗

@monavidaa, thank you for the advice. We did sit down and talked about it. But I told him I would save money but I’m not helping him pay for these things because I am no longer enabling him. He is a single child who had his mom to always take care of him. Now I take care of him and pay for his things and he asked me for $50 last week to make a payment towards his tools. I am done enabling the situation but he doesn’t see it as taking advantage of me.

@mhbb3, we both work but he makes a little more then I do. But keep in mind I pay for everything we go out because I believe my money is our money. But he discussed buying it before and I said no because we couldn’t afford it. And he just went behind my back and did it anyways.

@kristenap, that’s a good idea. I think we can keep trying but I should save my own money for the baby because I really want this and it’s not fair he gets what he wants and I don’t.

@scasacca, he said he was on the same page 🙄

Are you both working? If not maybe he feels like he doesn't have to discuss purchases with you. Maybe he's not ready for a baby and did this to sabatoge it because he didn't know how to talk about it. Either way it's time for a heart to heart about priorities and future plans.

No, don’t tell him to return and honestly you’ll make it worse by saying how you feel if you do in an upset way. I think guys think less of the future and more of the moment. When it’s time for buying important baby things once you’re pregnant, he will see what’s most important than and his priorities for saving will change. Continue TTC and save your own money and he will in time. 😊

@jessicarangel707, you should probably discuss money. Is he on the same page about moving, saving, and having a baby?

@roses702, my husband and I were TTC for a few months now . And have been trying to save money to for a big move that we are doing in the next month. To a 2 bedroom apartment one for us and one for my son and future baby ..
so he works as a mechanic . And had expressed interested in buying a tool box and tools , name brand . That for 5 tools cost him over 500 and the box was over 3500 and didn’t tell me about these purchases at all ..
we are supposed to be saving money for a baby . But him doing this . Just shows me we can not have a baby right now because he’s already stressing about having to pay that stuff off imagine the cost of a new baby on top of that . I think what he did is selfish because he didn’t discuss this purchases and now we have to put having a baby on hold because honestly with having to buy these things we don’t know how we’re even going to afford to move . Do I tell him to return the box , do I let him keep it and just give up on the baby , or what do I do 😭

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