I don't like sharing this stuff but it's real and it happening and it's bothering me. Today while on…
I don't like sharing this stuff but it's real and it happening and it's bothering me.
Today while on the laptop for school I discovered my s/o has an active tagged and gave his phone number to a woman on there one month ago. Granted this was during one of our many spats and I was not at home.
I have been FAR from perfect in this relationship but I've owned that. He constantly throw the past in my face and today I find out he's got skeletons of his own.
I'm angry because I've had him on this pedestal, thinking I'm so lucky, etc, etc. Now I'm questioning everything. He does let me use his phone and for the most part he's predictable BUT, I've put him through a lot. This pregnancy has been rough on him, he's having acceptance issues. He no longer initiates sex but will do it if I ask.
I feel like I should let this one go but I don't want to. I confronted him by messenger and just said that I saw it. He's been acting soo guilty all night. I haven't brought it up, haven't yelled or cried, I haven't said a word since the text. I guess I'm just venting. I'm not going to leave him. I'm mostly just bc he always acts like he's so perfect in this relationship.
BunsInMyOven·
There is never any reason to go behind one’s back and look for another person to connect with. Whether that is emotional or physical. Regardless of what’s happened in the past, you should not justify his behavior based on your past. That’s not a healthy relationship. Your past is the past and you both should be working to move forward- even though there may be struggle.
I’m sorry you’re going through this bc it’s betrayal. Betrayal really hurts.
Melissa ·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (19 нед.)
@phoebesmommy
Thank you
BunsInMyOven·
@mhbb3, I’m always here if you ever need to PM 💜
Melissa ·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (19 нед.)
@phoebesmommy
Thank you. I truly appreciate it.
Melissa ·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (19 нед.)
None of what's happening is an excuse to run back to my old ways, or to have an unforgiving heart or stew in resentment.
One way or the other everything God will use this for ultimate purpose. To be honest, it hurts bad but I won't allow it to steal my joy.
I very much appreciate the kind words and support. I think I'm going to speak to our pastor about some counseling for our family.
L·
Мама двоих (младенец)
Whatever is done in the past is done. He stayed, you came back if I'm understanding this correctly, and you BOTH decided to move forward--together. It either needs to be an all-in or not at all thing, or you will only continue this cycle of hurting each other. It's awesome that you didn't yell, accuse, fight etc. But at the same time, it's a conversation that you do need to have with him. Getting counseling through your pastor is an excellent place to start. My husband and I went through similar right after our first was born, and it was HARD to get back on track. But it's doable. And I think you are being very mature about it by seeking help now and not dissolving into an emotional state. I let my emotions get me so bad when my husband and I went through our rough patch, and that only kept the wounds open longer than they should have been. Good luck to you guys.
Melissa ·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (20 нед.)
@techie_grrl
Thank you for your thought out, heartfelt response.💕
L·
Мама двоих (младенец)
@mhbb3 any time.